Author Adrienne Morris

Intro: Broadcasting live from the Business RadioX studios in Woodstock, Georgia. This is fearless formula with Sharon Cline.

Sharon Cline: Welcome to Fearless Formula. I’m Business RadioX, where we talk about the ups and downs of the business world and offer words of wisdom for business success. I am your host, Sharon Cline. And today in the studio I have the author of a book called Mind Over Misery Unlocking the Power of Thought to Transform Suffering. Also, really interestingly, she is a sleep specialist and helps babies to sleep through the night, which is incredibly valuable. I’m so excited to talk to you. Welcome, Adrienne Morris. Thank you for coming.

Adrienne Morris: Yes. Thank you so much for having me. Sure.

Sharon Cline: We met in an interesting way.

Adrienne Morris: Yes we did.

Sharon Cline: So I had done some auditions for um on Voices.com, which is where I have my voiceover world. A lot of my work comes from there, so I had done an audition for the book that you were ready to have an audiobook for, and she hired me. It’s so great because I never meet people that I do work for in a book world like this. And you’re local to Atlanta. So it was just kind of special.

Adrienne Morris: It was, uh, you being in the Atlanta area was a huge reason why I chose you. I don’t know, I just felt like there was a connection there. When I first heard your voice, I was like, oh, yeah, like, this is the calm I’m looking for. Like, he felt like a reflection of me. Oh, well.

Sharon Cline: That’s the highest compliment ever as far as being, you know, a voiceover artist, because I always want to reflect well on the way that the author wrote it and the way they imagined it in their head or the energy behind it. That’s like, you’re who I’m trying to please the most. So just hearing that was like, oh yeah.

Adrienne Morris: Well, you were spot on to me, so thank you.

Sharon Cline: Well how fun. I mean, what’s neat is like this. This is a new sort of venture in your life. Like you’ve got another book in your mind, actually, after this that you’re ready to to do. So, can you tell me a little bit about your journey to becoming an author?

Adrienne Morris: So a little bit about my journey. So I first got into Toastmasters and I wanted to work on just communication and just my public speaking. I realized I didn’t make any eye contact with people. I looked down, you know, um, as far as networking, I was, like, scared to communicate with people. And so it challenged me. Um, I feel like I faced my fears. I once I signed up, I was so nervous. And the lady was like, so when do you want to do your speech? And I was like, she was like, next week. And I was like, um, sure. Like, here we go. So. And after a few speeches, I built up the courage and I was like, I think I’m ready to write my book. I think I’m ready to get started. But just like in Toastmasters, I didn’t know where to start. But just getting the ball rolling, just trying something different. I started working on my communication. Um, because in Toastmasters they give you feedback, they evaluate you, they give you feedback. And I just implemented the feedback and I built up my confidence. And so same thing with the book. I, uh, I was living with a friend and she was a writer, and I thought that maybe living with her, maybe, you know, we could collaborate and work together and produce this book. And then it didn’t work out. Then I went to Thailand to visit a friend, and for seven weeks and I’m like, okay, here we go. Like, I got it this time, you know, this friend is going to help me. He had bought like a book course. So I’m like, okay, he’s going to help me. But in that time in Thailand, I realized, like, it was all in me. That time of solitude, just being there to be able to work out or wake up Journal, work out, um, Google or YouTube, some book stuff to try and learn. Um, I just realized, like I got this.

Sharon Cline: It’s interesting to think that here we are in our lives, our everyday lives, right? The routine. But to take yourself out of it and go into a completely different culture can unlock a different side of you that you didn’t even know you had.

Adrienne Morris: Yes, it definitely got the ball rolling. So when I got back from Thailand after that seven weeks, I came back with an outline and I was like, okay, I’m in it now. I’m doing it. What did you how.

Sharon Cline: Do you what was it about the culture and what was it about that environment that just gave you a different sense of who you were. Was it being quiet or was it the people that you met?

Adrienne Morris: Um, it was in the stillness, I would say. Um, I had time to, like, think my own thoughts. I think one thing a lot of people I’m going to say in the States, um, they don’t have the time to themselves. Most people are just waking up and doing the same things every single day. And a lot of it is work which consumes most of your time and most of your mind. And in Thailand, I had all of my time and all of my mind, like I remember just sitting and I’m like, I’m controlling my time and I’m controlling my habits that I’m like, I didn’t have to go into a job. I didn’t have to worry about my expenses. I didn’t have to worry about what I was going to eat. I didn’t have to do any of that. I literally had the freedom to just be. And I think that was the most powerful thing for me.

Sharon Cline: It’s it’s a lost, um, value system, I think, because as much as I’m in the same thing, I’m always running. There’s always something on my calendar. I’m very busy, but I have dreams, too, you know, like, I would love to do this or love to do that, but then, like, it’s almost Christmas like that. If that’s what it feels like, the year will go by so quickly and I haven’t really accomplished my goals. Um, some of them, yes, but a lot of them, no. And I guess that feeling of, um, um, being able to really appreciate, um, the, the impact of your own thoughts only as opposed to being constantly barraged with social media or TV or anything. I think I underestimate that, yes.

Adrienne Morris: I think a lot of people underestimate it. Um, there. So from 2021 to I would say 2023, I was by myself a lot. And that’s when I came into like, the mindful eating, the mindful walking, um, and listening to the, um, keynote speakers on YouTube and the motivational speakers every day and my meditation every morning. And I felt like I was choosing what was going in my mind, not the other way around, not showing up to work. And this person saying, oh, you do this and you do that, or, you know, I didn’t feel like an octopus, like being pulled in so many different directions. I felt like I was controlling my time. So who could I blame besides me, because I was controlling everything, right?

Sharon Cline: I don’t even think I realize how much my attention gets pulled into a thousand different directions. I react, you know, or respond, I guess, or react, but I don’t direct my time, I think. And I loved what I was reading that part in the book. I was thinking, this is so smart because it is feeding your brain what you want as opposed to just seeing whatever is out there in the world.

Adrienne Morris: Yes, I think everyone needs to take back their power to control their own thoughts. You get to say. But I think, um, society just. We’re just kind of taught, you know, either go to school or get a job and that’s what you do. And then that consumes 8 to 12 hours of your day every single day. And then, like you said, you have your own dreams. You have your own goals. But when do you find that time? And then if you have kids or a relationship.

Sharon Cline: Or a relationship, like anything that pulls your attention away, it’s it’s everything. Yes.

Adrienne Morris: It’s pulling your attention and it’s controlling your mind too, because it’s in the back of your mind. It’s like your to do list. You’re always thinking about, okay, how can I fit this in or how can I fit that in? But when I was in that time of solitude, I literally could map out every hour of my day or just be spontaneous and say, I’m going to go for a two hour walk just because I had that time. And I was like, I know this is going to help me.

Sharon Cline: When you came back to the States, did you find that there was a huge disparity between the way you felt there and the way you felt here? Like, was it really challenging to keep that peaceful mindset going?

Adrienne Morris: Um, I don’t think that it was challenging to keep that peaceful mindset. Um, this I started this journey in 2021, so I feel like I’ve had three years of practice. But in Thailand for the seven weeks, it just felt like a freedom and a peace I never knew I really needed. Um, working with the babies. Um, if anybody needs help, I’m always like, yes, yes, I.

Sharon Cline: Know how to do.

Adrienne Morris: This. It’s easy. Like, you know, the parents are like, you know, they’re so good with you. I’m like, I know these are my babies. But being 12 hours away, I couldn’t say yes. Nobody could ask for help. I couldn’t just get on a flight and say, hey, I’m coming back. Like I feel like me going away for seven weeks. I set that time out for me. So I feel like if anything, it just intensified my solitude and my mindfulness and creating even better habits than I already had.

Sharon Cline: Wow. It makes me wish maybe at some point in my life I’m going to put it out there as an intention. You know? I’ll be able to take some time to myself like that too. Yeah. Um, well, why don’t we talk about, um, your journey that you went through, not just writing the book, but how you got to the point of being able to have that mindset to say, I’ve got a lot here that can help a lot of people. So when I think about the fact that you started off kind of realizing that you were out of alignment with a lot of things and reacting to situations that you didn’t love, then you realize there are there are intentional ways that I can change myself in order to get a response that I’m proud of and really like. Um, what was it like to kind of get that into a whole book? Because you talk about, I mean, these are major transformative moments, especially regarding your father, which, you know, can be very emotional as well. So feel free to to fill in the gaps of what I kind of just outlined.

Adrienne Morris: Okay. So, um, when I started in 2021, it was challenging. There were tons of tears because I’m like, I don’t even know how to be with myself. Do I even like myself? You know, because the thoughts that were consuming me were so negative. So like I said before, I decided to take control of my day. So waking up early and doing my journaling and doing my meditation, and I started listening to other speakers because it was positive on social media, when you’re scrolling, you don’t know what you’re going to get. So I was more intentional when I woke up and I was like, this is what I’m going to fill my mind up with, or doing the affirmations as soon as I got to work, setting the reminders for my reminders to go off each hour just to affirm me and keep me positive throughout my day. Like those little things, um, helped me develop the mindset. And there was a time when I got off of social media because I realized how much it was controlling my mind, and I was like, everyone’s saying the same thing, doing the same things. And I was like, they’re just vulnerable. Vulnerable enough to do it, you know? And and at that time in my life, I wasn’t vulnerable enough.

Adrienne Morris: There were times when I would turn on my camera and try and talk to the camera and I’m like, uh, no, I’m forgetting everything that I need to say. So. But that’s what got me into the Toastmasters. That was my real challenge. I’m like getting up, getting out, getting around a community to, um, around people with similar mindset helped me. Um, and like I said, build the confidence to be able to even write the book. And I will say so with my dad. He is in the book too. And his absence, I think, drove a lot of this. And a huge turning point was when I called him and I had rehearsed all these lines of what he was going to say, what he was going to do, or how he was going to respond, because I could only think of the negative stories that I had from a child. But when I called him and he said, whatever I have to do to fix it, it shut down every negative thought that I had and the more I was around him, the more I realized how much like the good things I was like him. So I found value in that. And it takes a.

Sharon Cline: Lot of bravery, though. Bravery, to call your father and say those kinds of things when you haven’t had him in your life for most of your life. Um, that’s like says a lot about your spirit because you really felt like to go to the OG, you know? You know what I mean? To go to where it starts, where a lot of people kind of, you know, play off of the people around them to kind of try to heal those parts of themselves. And obviously it doesn’t work that well. And there’s a lot of drama that can happen. And you instead decided to go to the source and say, okay, this is what I need to heal. And how wonderful that your father took responsibility. Um, that’s a gift as well.

Adrienne Morris: Yeah. Even, um, I did a speech two weeks ago, and he was up here, and he actually came. And you. So in Toastmasters you have to introduce yourself and they ask you like who you are. How did you hear about us and what you’re what you’re looking to get out of Toastmasters. And he stands up and he says, uh, my name is Adrian Morris. And he puts his hand on my shoulder and he says, I’m Adrian Morris father. And then I do my speech and my evaluator mentions, like, does everybody realize? Like she spoke her truth and her biological father is sitting right here. So I do think that we have built a relationship where, um, I would say I have a more positive outlook. You know, everything isn’t perfect, you know, but I think that we are building slowly. So and even with me expressing myself about how, um, I attracted relationships similar to the, Um. Like unemotional or. Unemotional.

Sharon Cline: Kind of like a dynamic that is, like, similar to the way that your father was. These relationships were very mirror mirroring the similar energy, right?

Adrienne Morris: Yes. And I kept attracting that. But then I realized, like, the more I leaned into him, I feel like the more I could recognize this signs because I’m like, this is a source and this is where it’s coming from. And I feel like the more I avoided it, it was like the more I still didn’t know and I just stayed on the hamster wheel. So it wasn’t until I challenged myself to call him and say, hey, like, this is what’s happening. It hurts. Yeah, this.

Sharon Cline: Really hurt my life. It hurt. Well, you know, I have to give you props here because, um, obviously the show is called Fearless Formula, and everybody understands the emotion of fear. It’s just a basic one. Um, but you do have a fearless formula that you do face your fears and do things anyway, especially Toastmasters. I was thinking, I think statistically people are more afraid of public speaking than dying. Some some crazy statistic like that to where most people would be like, yeah, I would do anything than get up, you know, rather than get up in front of people. But you did it. You, you went and faced it. And then obviously confronting your father the way that you did, you were brave enough to do that. What is it about you that you think that you just pushed through the fear and do it anyway?

Adrienne Morris: Um, I will say sports. I am very athletic. I played volleyball, softball, basketball, baseball, um, you name it, I tried it, and, um, I’m small. I’m like 110 pounds. I’m short five one And I feel like, um, everyone just always just saw me as small and tiny or like, I couldn’t do something or like, you know, I wasn’t going to win or, like, they’re going to beat me. Yeah. And so I think I just developed this mindset like, I’m going to show you, you know. And I think it allowed me to like, push through. Um, when I was in high school, I soccer and basketball was at the same time. And my freshman and sophomore year, the coaches let me play both sports. But my junior year, they were like, you’re going to be on varsity. You have to pick. So I was like, okay, well, I’m going to go with soccer. So I went with soccer. And then my senior year I was like, I don’t want to do soccer. I think I want to do basketball. But the coach, he says, I like four year athletes. So he wanted me to have played basketball my junior year, but that wasn’t the decision I made. So when I went to the tryout, He? I felt like he already was kind of counting me out. And then I was like, well, I’m just going to keep showing up then. Then after the first day, he was like, well, I have a junior that can do the same thing you can do. So I’m like, okay, but I’m not the junior, you know.

Adrienne Morris: And then he’s like, well, you know, you’re not working hard enough in practice. Like, everyone else is like hunched over, tired after the running drills and you’re not. And I’m like, I can’t help that. I’m fast. You know, like, I’m making the time. I’m just not out of breath. So then I started pushing harder. And then the next day I still come back and he’s like, well, even if I put you on the team, you’re not going to get any playing time. So I’m like, do you know who I am? Like on all the teams I play on, I always start, I always play. So I think that drove me. And so I wound up making the team. And then after the first few games, like 2 or 3 games, I was six man off the bench. And so I was like, first of all, he told me I wasn’t going to make the team. Now I’m on the team. Then you told me I wasn’t going to play. Now I’m six man off the bench, so I’m the first person to be put into the game. I’m like, oh, starting position is right around the corner. So sure enough, I began starting. So I think, um, that’s where I feel like I developed like this ability to just push through anything. Like, I’m going to try it, I’m going to do it. If I put my mind to it, I know I could do it regardless of what anybody says.

Sharon Cline: It says a lot about sports in general, because when you’re part of a team, it’s not like just you. You’ve got to show up because you have other people counting on you. So there’s like, I don’t know, I don’t know exactly how to say it, but maybe like a disconnect of what you yourself wants, but you are able to look at what’s best for the team or something. There’s like a distancing that you do of your own emotions, I guess. And there’s something really valuable there, I think, because I’m my own worst enemy and, you know, I make it so difficult for everything in my head. But like, if I’m thinking beyond myself, it’s amazing how much I can put somebody else’s needs forward. I don’t want to let them down. So I’ll do it as opposed to I can let myself down, like all day long.

Adrienne Morris: No, you matter too.

Sharon Cline: Yeah, I know right? This is such a good lesson for me to hear. No, but I love that because, you know, it says a lot about, like, if you have a child that you want to have the same kind of mentality, it makes sense that you would allow them to be part of a team so that they can see that they’re a part of something bigger than just themselves.

Adrienne Morris: Yes.

Sharon Cline: I love it. And also, I think there’s a huge element in your book, um, regarding manifestation and how much what your mind, how you focus your mind and that mindfulness determines your reality. Can you talk a little bit about that as well?

Adrienne Morris: Yes. So. Oh, I have so many stories. I know. So in that time of like, solitude, that’s when, that’s when I was able to, like, really see my thoughts and see how things come into fruition. I could think of something, and then I would get a text message, or I could see something on my phone, like an advertisement on social media, and then go to like HomeGoods or TJ Maxx, and it show up right in front of me and I’m like, wow. Like, so if I can think this thought and then something show up that fast, like I need to keep my thoughts positive. And it was like a reality check for me. I remember one time driving around running some errands and I saw a Tiff treats, um, advertisement vehicle, and I was like, uh, you know, I think I kind of want to treat. And then I was like, no, I’m not going to get it. So I go home, go to sleep, go into work. That night it was the mom’s birthday and she had three boxes of TIFF’s treats, and she texted me and she was like, have as much as you want. We can’t eat it. Take them home. They’re Ziploc bags on the counter, like so. Just little things like that. Um, that same family. I wanted to take a trip with them. I was like, if I could just show them, you know, like my skills, like on a trip, like, you know, maybe it could, like, lead to more. And I remember thinking about it right before I went to sleep, and I woke up from my nap, and I got a text message like, hey, do you want to take a trip with us to, like, Turks and Caicos? And I’m like, um, yes. I was just thinking about that before my nap. Like things would happen within minutes or things would happen within hours.

Sharon Cline: But you can’t deny either.

Adrienne Morris: I cannot deny that. And I’m like, oh my gosh, like I’m here by myself. Like, yeah, no one knows that I said this. Yes. So like I there’s proof in my experiences that it works. Like, our mind is just that powerful. So. And if you realize that you would keep your mind more on positive things and be more intentional about the things that you say that you actually want.

Sharon Cline: True. Because how many people look at the negative side, um, like, oh God, I hope it doesn’t rain today because I just, I have so much to do. And just the fact that you said that, you know, can affect I don’t know if it can make it rain, but just the idea of being negative as opposed to I love when it’s sunny, just keeping your thoughts on what you do want as opposed to what you don’t. That’s a challenge. It’s almost like a habit of thinking of the darker or negative things, I think.

Adrienne Morris: Yes, I think in our society we’re kind of just like raised that way and we just think that it’s normal. So I feel like I just challenge the norm to do something different. And it wound up working out for me and I manifest With ease. That’s amazing. There’s little things, like. Because I’m a live in nanny now. Um, one day I wanted vodka, pasta, and the mom put in the Instacart all the ingredients for vodka, pasta. And I woke up from my nap, and she’s like, oh, I’m making vodka pasta for dinner. And I’m like, I was just thinking that. Or, um, last week, Friday, I was thinking about buying myself some flowers. I was like, I haven’t bought myself flowers in a long time. And I go into my room, the lights turned on and they had like the lamp shining the light on roses. And she had a little note for me and she was like, thank you for everything you do for us. We love you. I’m like, there’s my flowers. Like, I didn’t even have to go get them.

Sharon Cline: Really. They’re so valuable. And I think, too, it feels so much better to think this way. It feels good. Right. So it’s like, positive and joyful and expectant and it’s, uh, that energy is so vastly different from thinking, oh, I don’t want this to happen or don’t want that to happen. So I think that’s for me as well. Um, that’s a really good nugget of wisdom for me to keep my mind thinking of positive things. Um, and knowing that the feeling behind it being positive and good is just what I need for the manifestation to happen.

Adrienne Morris: Um, just know it. Just believe it. It’s that intention, okay? Know that it’s already yours.

Sharon Cline: It’s already mine. I love.

Adrienne Morris: That, but.

Sharon Cline: I mean, how cool is it that you actually thought of other people too? You didn’t just keep all of this wisdom to yourself. You were thinking about how other people can benefit. And it’s really sweet. A lot of people, when they feel like they have power, it almost, you know, is something that they want to keep private. You know, they don’t want to. They don’t believe there’s enough for everyone. But you’ve never thought that. I know in your book you had talked about how really this universe is for every human here to make their world how they want it.

Adrienne Morris: Yeah, like you find your own way. You find what works for you. Like, I’m offering tools and techniques. But take my tools and techniques and make them your own. Because I don’t know what’s in everyone’s head. I don’t know everyone’s experiences, but I feel like if you give someone like, a basis of tools and techniques, then that could jumpstart their journey. It can get them out of the turmoil. It could stop the negative thinking it could. Maybe they will challenge their own thoughts and say, why is this happening? Or why am I doing this? Or why do I keep thinking about the same thing over and over again? Or why do I keep dating these similar guys? You know, I do like we all want freedom from that.

Sharon Cline: Yeah. And I think there’s nothing to be afraid of here because it’s it can seem daunting when you’re looking at the foundation of the way that you think, you know, um, that keeps you safe. And that’s how you you live your life is with that foundation. So to shake it can seem like, well, I don’t want anything too different. You know, I don’t want everything to be upside down. But I love that there’s nothing to be afraid of here. It’s all a positive, um, not just for your own character, but for what you can offer the world and how it affects the world in a bigger sense. Um, and I think that’s important to keep in mind.

Adrienne Morris: Um, and we’re all human. We all have our struggles, and we all have our story. We’re all just trying to find our way, whatever that may look like to us.

Sharon Cline: So true girl. I love that you feel the fear and do it anyway. And if you were to say, um, what your fearless formula is, is it that you’re able to not think too hard about something and talk yourself out of it? Like, how do you push? Because there are people that have their dreams and then it just seems overwhelming. Too difficult. What could you say to someone that’s listening, that.

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Sharon Cline: That fear that keeps them back.

Adrienne Morris: So one thing I do try and find is someone doing what I want to do. And another tool I learned was to sit back and observe and not talk so much. Because when you look with your eyes, you’re able to see like, hmm, is this you know what I want around me? Like, is this the system that I’m looking to create? Like, is this the way that I’m looking to do things, you know, because someone can tell you anything. And like we were talking about earlier, like filling your mind up with things that, you know, you really don’t want, but like, seeing it, you can just remove yourself like, no, turn the other cheek like something else. Yeah. I’m not trying to attract that.

Sharon Cline: I love it. So it’s almost like you’re letting someone’s life that that you wish you had. You’re kind of learning from their wisdom. You’re learning from their experience. And if you like their outcome, then you can align yourself with that as opposed to just looking at anything and not knowing if the outcome is anything that you really want. There are a lot of people that I’m sure don’t have the outcome, you know, that feels right to you. Yeah.

Adrienne Morris: So for me, one of the things I kept saying was like, I wanted a housekeeper. Like, I want like, I wanted to learn household systems. That’s what I kept telling myself. I wanted to travel the world, all expenses paid. I wanted to live, um, mortgage and rent free. And I wanted to exchange less time for more money. And I got a call from the family that I’m a live in nanny for in January, and they offered me 30 hours, so I was exchanging less time for more money. Um, I traveled with them for free, and and I live mortgage and rent free now. So, um, a few friends and I that I met at Toastmasters, we would get on a call every single day at anywhere from 5 to 6 a.m., and we would recite each other’s affirmations. And after eight months, I manifested those three things, all in this one family. So. And they show me things that I said that I wanted. But I don’t have the experience, and I’ve never seen anybody do things in the way that they do them. And so I do my best to stay present in the house because I’m like, I asked for all of this, all of it. The good and bad. Yes. The stress and bad. Yeah, yeah. Sometimes I do have to call my mom and talk to her. And she’s like, you asked for this. I’m like, yeah, you’re right. Thank you for saying that. Like, after the emotions are gone, I’m like, okay. Yes, back to reality. Yes. You’re right. It’s so true.

Sharon Cline: I love that. Listen, everyone needs the mom. That kind of brings it back to the real.

Adrienne Morris: My mom is going to keep it real. Yeah, but how amazing.

Sharon Cline: And what a wonderful Toastmasters group to be part of where you support each other on like a spiritual level. Not just your speech was great or you can do it, you know, but but to actually really kind of go through life together a little bit, that’s really special.

Adrienne Morris: Yeah, it was, um, a shaman. She told me, because I was like, in my book, I talk about this too, where, um, I’m like, well, if they don’t call me, I’m not going to call them. And I reached out to her and I was like, why does this bother me? And she was like, you need hobbies. I’m like, hmm, I thought I had hobbies, but maybe it’s not enough, you know? And so I think that drove me to go to Toastmasters to and I was talking to someone yesterday from Toastmasters, and I was just saying, just being around like minded individuals helps out so much because everyone there is one looking to be positive and looking to grow in some way, shape or form. And a lot of people want to be heard and they want to be understood and they want you to communicate effectively, and Toastmasters gives you all of that. And so the community just kind of like puts the stamp on it every time I go. It’s amazing.

Sharon Cline: It’s such a positive thing for your life. Well, if you’re just joining us, we’re speaking with author of Mind Over Misery, Adrian Morris. I also wanted to talk to you about the other side of your life. Obviously, you’re a live in nanny. You were saying. But you provide a very valuable service for parents who have new babies who aren’t sleeping through the night. And those parents need that baby to sleep through the night. So can you talk a little bit about how you and your sister got into this business together?

Adrienne Morris: Yes. Okay. Shout out to dream babies. Dream babies. I love it. We get the babies to sleep. Um, so my sister, um, I went to Albany State and my brother and sister lived in Atlanta, and they were like, come up here. There’s more opportunity. So I decided to move in 2014. And so when I first started with her, I was just doing like date nights, like kind of getting my feet wet with, um, taking care of the babies. And she was just getting her business up and running. And then we started something called sleep learning. So we’re newborn specialists where we, um, teach babies to sleep eight hours by eight weeks or 12 hours by 12 weeks. And we create structure and systems for the parents and for us. We get them on a feeding schedule that, um, ensures that babies are being fed, so they’re being taken care of and that they’ll sleep peacefully throughout the night. So they’re not waking up angry or upset or anything like that. We all like a calm baby. Um, yeah. Most people can’t handle babies crying. So yeah, I.

Sharon Cline: Was just saying that before the show. I’m like, I can’t and I love that. What you do is, I mean, I don’t know, there’s a philosophy where babies kind of decide when they’re hungry and you feed them when they’re crying. Or like there are three basic reasons why they cry. Um, but I like that you are kind of anticipating what they’re going to need before they do so that they never actually get that dysregulation or that that, um, so upset, you know, because they’re so hungry like that. So it’s, it’s something that if I could go back, I would be more mindful of is keeping kids on a good schedule, like babies in particular.

Adrienne Morris: Yeah. They need the consistency. And so to you, it gives you peace of mind too.

Sharon Cline: So I was going to say like to me, um, the being sleep deprived as a new mother, um, it’s almost just messed up to have like another, a very helpless infant to take care of when you can hardly take care of yourself. And I remember thinking, it’s like kind of cruel that you have like, they let you go home with this baby and no one is there to check on you. You’re like, you’re letting me take this baby. Yeah. And now you. Yeah. And no one’s there to help, you know, other than if you have someone at home to help you, like a mom or something. That’s wonderful. But oftentimes, like, I was alone. So it’s just the idea of not being able to really make sure that your mind is as clear as you would want it to be to take care of an infant. So I love the idea of being able to say, in eight weeks, you will at least be able to get eight hours of sleep. Oh my goodness.

Adrienne Morris: Yeah, well, with us being there, the parents can sleep a little bit longer. Um, it makes.

Sharon Cline: Everybody.

Adrienne Morris: Happier. It does. Like within the first two weeks, depending on how many nights we’re there. Like, um, with the parents, it just depends on how much sleep they’re going to get. Because the first two weeks is just like every three hours. We’re doing this like. Yeah.

Sharon Cline: You’re dealing with.

Adrienne Morris: It. Yeah. And so after, like, week three and week four, we can slowly, you know, begin to stretch baby, overnight, you know, a few more hours, which helps out the parents if we’re not there. So just getting that extra hour just helps them overnight. And so week after week we stretch a little bit longer, and we’ve gotten to a point where within 6 to 8 weeks we we could have babies sleeping 12 hours. So I mean, imagine in your first two months of having a newborn, you know, your baby can be sleeping 12 hours. So if you put baby to sleep at 7 p.m., baby’s going to sleep till 7 a.m., so that gives you time to yourself. If you want to shower, talk to your husband, make a little eye contact. You know if you need a little 15 to 30 minute bath, you know, with some candle lights just to relax, some quiet time or sitting on the patio. It allows you, yeah, it allows you all of that time. And you know, baby’s fed. Baby’s going to be okay. Baby got their calories throughout the day, so it provides a lot of peace of mind.

Sharon Cline: Do you think it helps that it’s not your baby crying? In other words, when my children and babies were crying. You know, my heart just hurts so bad. So do you think that little degree of separation makes it easier for you to manage? Or are you finding that the theme is the same like most moms are? Just like my baby’s crying, I got to go get this baby up even if it’s two in the morning. Do you know what I mean?

Adrienne Morris: Yes. So I will say for me, um, the response I get from a lot of moms or parents just in general, because a lot of the dads are very active, um, they always say I bring a calm to the house and like, the babies know me like the last baby I had. Hardly. She wouldn’t even cry, like, on the changing table. And, um, we had trained a new girl, and the one night she had went had.

Sharon Cline: Cried the whole time. Yeah. No.

Adrienne Morris: So she was like, she she misses Miss Adrian. And I’m like, yes, because they know like they know your heart. They know your mind. They like if you’re calm, the baby’s going to be calm too. So. And I always say, all of my babies are so good. If you see them around me, the kids are not crying. I don’t care what age they are. We’re having fun. We’re laughing like there’s still some structure. But I mean, we’re still going to have fun at the same time. So from newborns to seven year olds, like I’m not getting a lot of the tears. I’m not saying 100% of the time these kids are not crying, but 95% of the time I’m not experiencing having to help them with their emotions through crying.

Sharon Cline: All right. So the takeaway from that is the energy that you’re bringing. They can feed right off of yes, even babies, even newborns, even.

Adrienne Morris: Newborns, they know they can’t talk, so all they can do is sense energy.

Sharon Cline: Interesting.

Adrienne Morris: Yes, I.

Sharon Cline: Should have started this a long time ago. I mean, my kids are like, they’re great, but I’m just saying, how valuable is this when you are just getting started in the parent Field. It’d be really wonderful to kind of be mindful of your own energy. It’s so tough though. It’s all emotional. You’ve got hormones happening. Your body is not the same. It’s like the challenge is real. So someone like you coming in with good energy is very, very valuable.

Adrienne Morris: Yes. And then I’m always like, constantly telling the parents, like, you are doing such a good job. I’m like, give yourself some grace. Your baby’s sleeping like, you know, six hours and they’re only four weeks old. I’m like, some kids are two years old, still waking up every three, four hours. Like, your kid’s doing great. Like, how important are those words?

Sharon Cline: Those words are so important. Especially when you’re a new parent and you don’t know.

Adrienne Morris: You don’t know. You don’t have anything to compare it to, but I do. I’ve seen thousands of babies.

Sharon Cline: So this is your next book that you’re considering writing or you’re getting started writing. Is that right? All about what you do with your sister?

Adrienne Morris: Yes, I like to put that in a book as well and help other parents. I mean, going in overnight, You know, the physical part is lovely, but I for the people who possibly can afford the services, I would like to put it in a book so that I can help even more people. And I feel like this can help anyone in the world. Anybody with a baby. Babies aren’t going to stop coming. So. I just want to help the world. Yeah.

Sharon Cline: It’s so exciting to that. Energy is so good. Just knowing that you’re trying to help people to get to feel like they’re living their authentic life, whatever that looks like. It doesn’t have to be a cookie cutter, anything but whatever reflects their reality, how they want to live. Being congruent, I think that’s so important. But also just starting at a baby. A baby level, you know? Yeah. But also I was you were saying how important it is for adults to have that structure and balance too. It’s it’s I don’t think that ever really ends because one of the things I was thinking about recently is like, if I had all the money in the world, where would I go? What would I do? The whole world is open. So if I’m not happy in this moment, well, I can do something else to make it even happier and happier and happier. There’s always more. More. But there’s something about having a natural limit that calms my spirit down because it’s not always trying to one up. Oh well, this will be even better if I get more and have more. But knowing that, and it’s the same for children like that, having boundaries gives them peace. And I think it doesn’t end as an adult either. Having boundaries around myself gives me peace too. Mhm.

Adrienne Morris: So, um, living in the house, I am very structured. I like pick up the kids at like 445. Well I start cooking around like three and then I pick up the little girl at like 445. I get back to the house and we all eat dinner together, and then I shower them up and we’re like, done by 630, like, every single day. But I don’t have to, like, give a lot of instruction. I just do it. And then when you keep doing it the same way every single day, it kind of gets the kids to, like, fall in line. So after our shower, the little girls are like, oh, we have to brush our hair and brush our teeth, like every single day. So and it’s not like I have to like, harp on this. It’s we just go from the shower to the bathroom. So I think when you create these systems or these habits with the kids, it gives you peace of mind and them peace of mind. So now I’m not having to say like, hey, it’s time to brush our teeth. It’s time to brush our teeth. It’s time to brush our teeth. It’s time to brush our teeth. Why haven’t you done it yet?

Sharon Cline: What’s it going to take? I think I was very structured as well, like as a, as a parent, but I, um, I would say that. Yeah, seeing it now, our lives feel different than when I was actively parenting small children. When I think about it now, it’s there’s always a screen around. There’s always a distraction around, so I would have to be a different parent. I think now very, very structured with what they are exposed to as well and how they spend their time. I don’t envy any parent right now because I do think it’s like constant exposure. Yeah. Um, and you don’t even have to have a TV anymore, you know, in order to, to be affected by media. Mhm. Um, it’s just really interesting because it’s like I almost wish I could do a bit of a do over in some ways, when you know better, you do better, you know. Um, but I love that you’re giving people who are just getting into it all of the structure that they would need to to make their life the way they want it, whether it’s through your first book, you know, mind over misery or being able to help new parents, um. It’s exciting. Yeah.

Adrienne Morris: So the thing for me is I have a lot of experience. Um, when I was ten, my cousin would have me come over and watch my five year old cousin and my newborn cousin, and she would start dinner, but I would have to finish dinner, and I would feed the kids and put them to sleep like. So I feel like I started this a long time ago. Um, I feel like most parents have 1 or 2 kids and that’s where they get their experience. And, you know, doing anything in life 1 or 2 times.

Sharon Cline: It’s not enough.

Adrienne Morris: It’s not enough.

Sharon Cline: It’s not enough for anyone. It’s the truth not to be a master at something, or to really even understand your own self in that whole process.

Adrienne Morris: Yeah. So, I mean, you’re trying to figure it out. They’re trying to figure it out. You’re trying to figure it out together. So with all of my practice, I’ve been able to create systems and try things that I know work. So when I show up in any household or when I show up around any kid, I show up as me. And I’m confident. Yeah, in my way.

Sharon Cline: So I love that. I mean, that’s, it’s a, I do the fake it till you make it thing, you know, pretend that I really am confident and know what I’m doing. And every time I walk in the studio and the code still works and I’m still allowed to come in, I’m like, wow, they haven’t figured it out yet. That’s great. You know, like the imposter syndrome is real for me anyway. Yeah. Um, but I love that too, because it’s not like you’re saying no one can have access to these things. You have to be special, or you have to have had the exact experience I have. You say it’s there for everybody. Yeah, that’s very hopeful. I think that you don’t have to be super special. You can just be your normal self and still have access to be able to live your life the way you want.

Adrienne Morris: I think you’re already special, but you have to know that you have to be confident in that and know that it’s okay. We are all human. That is one thing I always say. We are all human, trying to find our own way. Truth, truth.

Sharon Cline: That’s the best thing about this show, I think, is because it focuses on the things that make us all human and our universal truths. We know love, we know fear. We know pain, disappointment, all of those emotions that are universal to all of us unite us. That makes us the same. And that’s one of my biggest themes, is that, you know, things that helped someone else get through fear. Well, maybe that’s the same kind of thing you could use, because we all know what it feels like to be afraid. If you were going to give an author who has an idea of a book some advice on how to get to the point of actually publishing, what would you say?

Adrienne Morris: I would say, just believe in yourself. Just don’t stop. And I would say take daily action. So when I started my journey in 2021 and I just started meditating, I didn’t know what to do. So I got on YouTube and I would do a five minute guided meditation, but my negative thoughts consumed the whole five minutes. But I was like, I’m going to keep doing this. So I did it every single day until I was able to change my thoughts. And then I went up to ten minutes and then I was like, okay, one day I’m not going to need the guided meditation. I’m just going to do ten minutes on my own. So, um, same thing with the book. Just start. Start with the title, start with the cover and just take daily action. Learn from somebody who’s already doing it. And you may not even use their way, but just to hear a different perspective when you don’t have a perspective at all because you’re not in it. I think that helped, but just doing a little bit every day. I feel like you start training your brain like, okay, we’re doing this, I like this, you know? And so I feel like eventually you will complete it, like just start gaining some knowledge a little bit at a time, every single day. Just don’t stop and create the cover. Once you have the cover, you’re like, okay, I’m in it now. It’s real. It’s such.

Sharon Cline: Good advice. And you know, people can use AI to make their own covers these days. And also it’s not like you need to go anywhere to do it. You can just say, I don’t know, the cover is going to be, you know, a mountain with this on it. And then it’s a real thing. It’s a real it’s not just out there as an esoteric idea. It’s actually something you can look at and get inspired by.

Adrienne Morris: You can use AI if you’re already creative, you can use Canva. Do it yourself. Um, if you’ve got extra funds, you can use Fiverr or Upwork. There’s so many ways to get help.

Sharon Cline: All at our fingertips.

Adrienne Morris: Yes, we need.

Sharon Cline: It, including your book and soon to be audiobook. Yeah, out there in the world.

Adrienne Morris: So excited. I was listening to it earlier. I went to the river and I was just like, I did this. Yes you did. You created a book.

Sharon Cline: I love it, it’s so inspiring, even for myself. So I Adrian, I just want to thank you so much for coming into the studio and being such a positive light to the world, because so many people can look at their past and blame lots of people and circumstances for why they don’t do what they’re, you know, could do. You don’t do that. You don’t blame. You say, here’s what I’m going to do to make a change. And you actually did it. So I hope everyone who listens gets inspired and picks up your book, whether it’s audiobook or just the physical book or Kindle or whatever, please feel free. Everyone out there who’s listening to feel inspired to make your life the way you want it. I mean, it’s it’s so well structured how you have the chapters and nothing feels daunting. Everything feels like, okay, a little step, a little something out there to do. It doesn’t have to be your whole life upside down.

Adrienne Morris: No, I mean, you won’t see the change overnight anyways, but most people want it upside down like they want to go 0 to 100. But life doesn’t work like that. No. At all. I mean, little things might show up like my Tiff treats manifestation. But yeah, if you want real like internal change, give yourself. It might sound crazy, but at least a year because it’s going to take practice. Like I said, even with writing the book, it’s going to take daily effort and it’s going to take daily habits, daily discipline every single day. You’re going to have to do it. And then eventually you come into that person that you’re looking to be. But a lot of people will do it for a week or even with like fitness programs, they do like 30 or 60 days. Okay. Well, what did they do after the 30 or 60 days? For most people, if they spent five years not doing something 30 days typically doesn’t change that and make them continue to do it for another five years. So you just have to keep going every single day and just create the habit until it feels like it’s just a part of your day, and you can’t do without it.

Sharon Cline: I want to say, I heard that it takes 21 days to create a habit to where it starts to feel like, like you said, like brushing your teeth or something where you don’t have to think about it. So I think anyone can commit to three weeks.

Adrienne Morris: Yeah, that was actually my journal goal and I did it, and that’s what started it. I was like, okay, I did it. I got this and it.

Sharon Cline: Feels so much better to live that way. And I guess that’s the ultimate goal, is if you’re not happy with the way that your life is going right now, to be able to change it to where you do really like it. Like, what do I really want? And how do I want to really feel? Yeah, that’s very motivating. And that’s something I would keep in mind because all these these tips and tricks that you have are for that ultimate goal. So it’s not I just need to journal today, but it’s actually I really need to feel better. And this is the tool I’m going to use to do it. Yeah I’m on board. Yeah.

Adrienne Morris: Thank you. Thank you. Sure. Thank you so much.

Sharon Cline: For coming in the studio. If anyone wanted to get in touch with you as well, how can they do that?

Adrienne Morris: Um, Instagram. It’s Adrian Morris, TikTok. It’s Adrian’s journey. Uh, Facebook. It’s Adrian Morris two. And the book will be released September 20th. Woo hoo!

Sharon Cline: It’s coming.

Adrienne Morris: And I’m having a book launch October 13th, so all are welcome. Oh, that’s so exciting.

Sharon Cline: Oh, I’m so happy for you. And please come back when you are ready to talk more with your next book. I would love to explore that with you as well. I think everything you’re offering is so useful and needed in the world, and it’s just a joy to have someone in the studio who kind of wants the same kinds of things that I do. It’s like really fun, you know? Wants good things.

Adrienne Morris: Yes. You’re so easy to talk to. And thank you so much for having me. Oh, my pleasure. A pleasure working with you.

Sharon Cline: Yay! That’s good news. And thank you all for listening to Fearless Formula on Business RadioX. And again, this is Sharon Cline reminding you with knowledge and understanding we can all have our own fearless formula. Have a great day.