BRX Pro Tip: Yes, No
Stone Payton: Welcome back to Business RadioX Pro Tips. Stone Payton and Lee Kantor here with you. Lee, let’s chat a little bit about yes and no.
Lee Kantor: Yeah. This is something that I picked up from a guy named Steve Chandler. You know, we’ve been digging in deep with business coaches and coaching, in general. So, I’ve really made it, kind of, a mission of mine to educate myself about who the players are in the coaching world. And Steve Chandler seems to be one of the players. He’s considered by some to be the godfather of coaching. He says that, yes lives in the land of no. So, you really can’t avoid the nose. You can’t get a yes unless you face nos. So, you have to really kind of understand that and kind of accept that as a reality.
Lee Kantor: And every rejection, every setback, every time someone says no, that’s actually putting you one step closer to the yes that you desire. And when you have that fear of hearing no, some people are so paralyzed, they don’t even attempt, they don’t do the ask. So, they’re not even trying to get a yes because they are so afraid of the no. But success really demands pushing through that fear and kind of embracing that rejection is just part of the process. It’s part of success.
Lee Kantor: So, number one, he recommends a mindset shift. And don’t look at no as failure, but it’s actually fuel, and it’s actually feedback. So, every no is refining your approach, and it’s kind of thickening your resilience. So, you have to adjust your mindset when it comes to the nos.
Lee Kantor: And you it’s really good to reframe rejection. So, instead of avoiding a no, you just use it as a learning opportunity. You use it as a way to adapt and grow stronger. So, he encourages us to become the owners of our journey, to live courageously through these challenges, rather than look at ourselves as a victim, waiting for conditions to be perfect in order for us to succeed. So, he says that nos are not stop signs, that they’re actually stepping stones.
