Randy Lyman, The Purpose-Driven Leader, combines decades of business experience with a deep commitment to fostering emotional intelligence, spiritual grounding, and transformational leadership. His area of expertise is leading from a place of strength through vulnerability, creating cultures where authenticity and emotional connection drive high performance.
His book, The Third Element, which was released on March 19, 2025, makes these complex concepts accessible and actionable. It reveals the missing piece in manifestation that most people overlook—emotions. Randy teaches how unhealed emotional patterns can secretly shape our reality and how to transform them into a powerful tool for attracting abundance and fulfillment.
His own pivotal moment came after achieving material success but recognizing the emotional disconnection and stress that limited both his potential and his team’s. This awakening led him to focus on emotional awareness and belonging, which became the catalyst for dramatic business growth and renewed purpose.
Today, Randy shares his principles with individuals and organizations seeking clarity, connection, and authentic transformation. His teachings equip others to harness emotional intelligence, build meaningful relationships, and turn inner healing into outward success.
Beyond his professional life, Randy is a passionate craftsman who builds custom motorcycle motors and restores classic cars—blending precision with creativity. He is married, devoted to his family, and deeply rooted in his community. Randy’s mission is to inspire others to heal, lead, and unlock their full potential by embracing The Third Element: emotional truth.
Connect wtih Randy on LinkedIn and Facebook.
What You’ll Learn In This Episode
- Randy’s personal leadership journey
- How adding spiritual practices to workplace culture can foster a more calming environment
- Misconceptions leaders might have about introducing spiritual practices into the workplace
- Advice for leaders who want to begin incorporating spiritual practices and emotional awareness into their leadership style
This transcript is machine transcribed by Sonix.
TRANSCRIPT
Intro: Broadcasting live from the Business RadioX studios in Atlanta, Georgia. It’s time for High Velocity Radio.
Lee Kantor: Lee Kantor here. Another episode of High Velocity Radio, and this is going to be a good one. Today on the show we have Randy Lyman. He is the purpose driven leader with the Third Element. Welcome.
Randy Lyman: Hello. Good to be here with you.
Lee Kantor: Well, I’m excited to learn what you’re up to. Tell us about your practice. How you serving, folks?
Randy Lyman: Well, the latest way I’m serving folks is my new book, The Third Element The Missing Key to the Law of Attraction. And in that, I give people an opportunity to understand a little bit better the rules of the game of life. I’m also doing a personal coaching and corporate coaching.
Lee Kantor: So what’s your backstory? How did you get involved in this line of work?
Randy Lyman: Well, 35 years ago, at the age of 28, I was a left brain scientist and engineer and entrepreneur with multiple, uh, million dollar businesses. I was very successful, but I wasn’t necessarily happy and fulfilled. I met a woman by the name of Maria who I spent three years with, and she opened my eyes to a different way of looking at the world from a little more of the unseen, the emotional, spiritual side of life. And as I learn more about that, I was so intrigued and drawn in. I started applying what I was learning, and my success in the material world has blossomed.
Lee Kantor: So, um, as you were already working at the time, what about what she was saying? Unlock something inside of you.
Randy Lyman: Well, she helped me see that everything around us is a mirror of what’s inside of us. And the universe is creating our reality for us every moment based on our thoughts, our actions and our emotions. And the emotional part was the part I was not aware of. So I was doing all I could to be educated and to work hard and put in the hours and serve my customers. But I wasn’t aware of the emotional side of being human. So any old emotions I had, negative emotions I was hanging on to. Subconsciously they kind of crept into my world and they kept me from being the best I could be. And once I started to uncover those and address those, I was able to really multiply the effectiveness of my thoughts and my actions.
Lee Kantor: So what was kind of the first emotion that you were dealing with that gave you this kind of aha moment?
Randy Lyman: Well, for me it was a combination of anger and frustration. Underneath that was sadness. But I was doing all I could to find success, and the world wasn’t responding to the way I. To me, the way I thought it should. And to me that was very frustrating. I was I was again intelligent. I was working hard, but I wasn’t getting the rewards I knew were possible in the material world. And once I went through a few emotional healings, I went to a four day communications workshop for business communications, and the third day we went through an exercise that got me to a level of, uh, feeling of something I experienced 12 years earlier that a family member had said that had hurt me, and I subconsciously pushed that down and believed if I was competent in the material world, I would get their approval. Well, that really worked well to motivate me to material success, but I needed to feel that emotion. And so when I did in this workshop, it was very, uh, it was a huge upheaval. It was a very dramatic moment for for me, it was kind of an icebreaker for the group. And I went through the emotions around what my uncle had said to me about wishing I was more like a friend of mine, and I wasn’t who I was. That’s how I heard what they had to say. So I went through this emotional release and four days later, when I went back to work, then my world changed. All the people around me who had previously been incompetent suddenly became competent. Or they left my life. And being a physicist, being a scientist, it’s always caused an effect for me. And I saw the the cause was my emotional release and the effect was my relationships changed and that changed my life. I started looking at everything differently.
Lee Kantor: So when you say there was an emotional release, what how did that show itself? Was it did you throw a chair? Did you break a window? Did you cry like what occurred?
Randy Lyman: I just I broke down and cried like like a little kid would cry. And I was an adult man. I’m a logical, successful guy. But that emotion that that hides within us hides in what a lot of people refer to as the inner child. So there’s our adult ego self ego not in a bad way, but our adult personality. There’s our higher self. I believe our soul that comes through our intuition and other ways we connect with our higher soul. And then the third is that inner child. Now the inner child isn’t just a useless child. The inner child is joy and creativity and excitement and a lot of things we need in life, especially the creativity part. So we don’t want to kill the child. We don’t want the child to run the show. But that inner child in me that was hanging on to that pain was able to finally release it. So I cried the tears in front of a room of 15 people and it was just so pure. There was no embarrassment.
Lee Kantor: So how did your physicist brain, uh, handle kind of this spiritual awakening.
Randy Lyman: Well, I was so intrigued by Maria, my partner at the time, and the thing she was teaching me, and just the way she saw the world from such a place of purity. She saw the she saw God in every way. She saw love in every situation. And I wasn’t able to do that because of my own clouded judgment, based on my own emotional wounds. And so her world worked for her when she wanted something. It worked out. Her life just flowed very smoothly in my life was a constant battle. And I didn’t want the battle anymore. So even though I didn’t understand how she was approaching life, I saw how she was easily able to achieve results. And that’s what I wanted. And that’s what engaged my scientific mind to figure out what the heck is going on here. What am I missing?
Lee Kantor: Now, was she achieving the same level of materialistic results you were achieving?
Randy Lyman: No, she wasn’t the same level of materialistic results, but with regards to friends and business relationships and health improvements and just synchronicity in her life, her life flowed. Now she had lower expectations than me and she didn’t have the same financial rewards, but she had a sense of calm and ease and fulfillment. And that’s what I was missing. Even with all the financial and business achievement and success, I was missing that level of calm and fulfillment.
Lee Kantor: But you weren’t trying. That wasn’t what you were after.
Randy Lyman: No, that wasn’t what I was after. But that’s what I knew I was missing. Because if you’ve if you’ve met and you’ve been a very successful person, I think you realize that material success does not bring happiness. Material success does not bring fulfillment momentarily. It does. And it brings a lot of comfort. And I love material success. Don’t don’t get me wrong, but that the emptiness that I felt inside from not being connected to the people around me and feeling like I needed to achieve more in order to be happy. That’s what I wanted to move past. To move through and move past. And I wanted that sense of fulfillment that I. That she had.
Lee Kantor: So in your mind before her, you I guess you equated, if I got these material things, then I would get this kind of inner peace and then.
Randy Lyman: Absolutely. Because that’s, I believe, right.
Lee Kantor: So it’s that cause and effect. You said, if I do this, then I’ll get that.
Randy Lyman: But that’s not the way the game works. And, you know, a lot of very successful people who are not happy. And so the happiness is that we achieve through material success is fleeting. It’s momentary. It doesn’t stay with us because even when we’re successful, we still have to drive in traffic. We still have to, uh, talk to people we don’t necessarily care to talk to. We still need to, uh.
Lee Kantor: We still. Yeah. Still, bad things happen to everybody, and challenging things happen to everybody. There’s people that have a lot of wealth and are unhappy, and there’s people that don’t have a lot of wealth and are unhappy. I mean, um, I don’t know if there’s a correlation between all of those things, but when you’re adding this type of spirituality into your coaching and in helping other people, I guess, get to new levels, how, um, how do you kind of help them understand that this might be what’s missing, and this is what’s keeping them from maybe achieving the levels, even if those levels are materialistic or as part of your practice, trying to, you know, maybe de-emphasize some of the materialistic.
Randy Lyman: Well, I’m not against material success. I love material success. So what I do with left brain people and most people is I start out by let’s write down the problems and challenges you have in life. What do you want to see different, or what do you want to see added? Or what do you want to see gone? What changes would you like to see? And first we we talk about what we want to change. And then we say, can we do this simply through your current methods and if. And then the third level is aside from the second level being the approach, the third level is what does this feel like? Does it feel frustrating? Does it feel, uh, agonizing? Do you feel jealousy? What do you feel around this situation? So the mind has to work through it one step at a time. So outside problem. Second thing. What can I do? Third thing, what do I feel? And then if there are emotional feelings behind all this and people think emotions are bad. No they’re not, they’re natural. So we talk then about the feelings and we talk about the reason we have emotions and the value of those. And then we talk about Out the emotions that we didn’t feel completely in the past. That energy is still with us and we are able to release that energy through some specific techniques. So we take a left brained approach to emotions. I’m still a scientist and I’m still left brained, and that’s the simplistic approach that I take.
Lee Kantor: So. So you’re saying that there’s some simple A-b-c steps that anybody could take in order to, um, get a deeper understanding of these, the inner emotions that maybe are holding us back?
Randy Lyman: Absolutely. There are steps we can take. And in my new book, The Third Element, I outline, first of all, why? Because we’re not going to go down a tunnel that has no light at the end of the tunnel. So the first thing I do is give some people, give people some understanding of the light at the end of the tunnel. And why should I even open Pandora’s box of my emotions? So understanding is where we start.
Lee Kantor: So when a person comes to you, um, are you doing active coaching right now or are you primarily, you know, talking and selling your book?
Randy Lyman: I’m doing I’m primarily talking selling my book. I’m working with a few people on active coaching, but primarily I’m selling my book. But what’s your question?
Lee Kantor: So I’m just wondering when a person comes to you, are they coming to you because, hey, my business is struggling or are they coming to you with, hey, I’m not feeling joy anymore. Like, what’s the what’s kind of the impetus to begin a relationship with you or learn more about what your book says.
Randy Lyman: Any form of stalled progression or success, if they’re looking for a change and they’re not finding progress, or they’re not finding success and they just don’t know what else to try. That’s when I come in.
Lee Kantor: So it may not be, hey, sales are down like that. That’s not a problem you’re trying to solve. Or if you do this, this might solve that problem too.
Randy Lyman: This solves that problem too. So I’m very well versed in conventional business coaching and conventional management and leadership and all that. And I believe in all that. But at a deeper level, when we’re when we’re doing all the things we know we should be doing and we’re applying the techniques we’ve learned worked in the past or work for others, and we’re hitting a wall and we’re just these techniques I know should be effective or are not effective. Then we go a level deeper of okay, what needs to be felt and how do I need to change my, my, um, thought process and my thought patterns? And where’s my opportunity to feel something from the past? I’m ready to release.
Lee Kantor: And then, um, once you identify it and I’m assuming you have some techniques that will help a person release those emotions, then once the released. Is that it? You’re done. Now it’s. I have closure. I can move on. Or is there something else you have to do to kind of, you know, heal the wound that’s been opened?
Randy Lyman: Well, there’s there’s levels to it. So if a person gets even 50% of the way through it, their life’s going to be better. And some things I’m still working on after 30 years. But when we have a breakthrough of any sort, small or large, in my experience the physical world around us responds and improves. Now, um, we we still need to show up and do the work and think positive thoughts and make active decisions and do the work. But that work becomes more effective as we heal the old emotions. Oh, the other thing I want to say, Lee, is we don’t need to understand the emotions. We just need to feel whatever it is, process it through our feelings and our body and release it now. It can be done through working out, uh, punching a punching bag, singing, screaming at a tree. Just sitting in a place, uh, in nature or in life and being grateful for the wonderful people in our life and for the things that are positive. If we get to a place of feeling at any level of emotion and we’re able to breathe and work through that without blocking the feeling, our life improves.
Lee Kantor: Now what do you tell the person who says, I don’t? You know, I’m not a crier or I’m not, you know, I’m not a feelings person. There’s plenty of people out there that feel, I don’t know if it’s shame or embarrassment or what. The rationale is, why they almost take pride in not showing emotion.
Randy Lyman: Well, I can speak to that from my own perspective. So I was taught by the world around me that if if I showed emotion, I was weak. Now we can show emotion and not be weak. There are two separate things, but I learned that if I’m emotional at all, then I’m going to be seen as weak. And as men, our position is to provide and protect. And as men navigating the world, it’s important that we are respected. So I’m not just going to break down and sob in front of people who don’t understand. And I don’t need to break down and sob every time. But I’m being I’m exaggerating here, and I don’t make decisions based on emotions. And I’m not an emotional person. I’m still a logical reason. Reasonable take action person. The reason I’m sharing the message is because it’s been so useful for me, and I understand it so well, as from a person who was completely left brain, who is now much more balanced. So men have to be respected. Men are worried that we’re going to lose our effectiveness if we feel our emotions. Now we can feel our emotions without being overly emotional.
Randy Lyman: We’re not going to make decisions being based on emotions, but we can show up more compassionate, more caring. We can be more vulnerable in the way that we share. Yeah, I’ve made some mistakes in the past and and working with a team, I don’t want to make these mistakes. How do we work together as a team? Together? Being a key word together as a team to navigate this. And so I don’t have to show up as a leader. I don’t have to show up perfect. I don’t have to show up with all the answers. And yet when I help other people achieve success, they respect me and they see me as a leader and they get behind me as a leader. So leadership is not about barking orders or be this being the smartest guy in the room. Leadership is about helping the group achieve success through individuals in the group achieving success and through the group overall achieving success. And I can do that from a place of calm and confidence without having to exercise the power of my title.
Lee Kantor: Now, early on, um, when you started answering this, you mentioned that, um, that men are taught, I guess, through the world or whatever, just through life, that they shouldn’t show emotion. They shouldn’t, you know, that that’s a, uh, that equates to weakness. Or they could think that the but earlier you you mentioned that if they would just spend time by themselves in nature or, um, or, or with these kind of emotions and show the emotion, like, why is it difficult for them to even show emotion when they’re alone? Like there’s no one judging them except themselves. There’s no nobody, um, embarrassing them. They’re by themselves if they can’t still show emotion alone. Isn’t that that seems to me a bigger problem.
Randy Lyman: Right? Right. And great question. Thank you for clarifying your question. I didn’t hear that correctly. You said it right. I didn’t hear it right the first time. So here’s the here’s the deal. The emotions are so big, we’re afraid they’re going to continue forever and they’re going to take us over. That’s one of the challenges because we need to be as men. We need to be in control. And we’ve seen people who are emotional and they’re out of control, and we don’t necessarily realize that we can let this emotion through and move past it. And again, that’s what I explained in the book. And then the other thing is it’s painful sometimes, even if it’s something small from the past. And I was not abused and I didn’t go through all the emotional challenges many people did. But when those memories come up of being embarrassed or shame or whatever that might be, they hurt. They’re overwhelming. And our ego is designed not not like I have a big ego. I’m a narcissist. Just the personality part of our ego mind says that it’s going to protect us from any pain, whether it’s picking up a hot piece of wood off the campfire, it’s going to hurt, or whether I feel my emotions alone, someplace in a safe place. It’s going to hurt. And that part of our brain protects us from that pain. I want to add one other thing, because I know you’ve got other great questions. I say do it alone, but we can also do it with a friend or a mentor who understands, especially if we can find somebody who we connect with, who is on a similar journey of just becoming more aware of their emotions. Then we can work with somebody else, and we don’t have to do it all by ourselves. But most of the time, for men, we’re kind of on a journey by ourselves when we start down this path.
Lee Kantor: Now, is this book primarily for men?
Randy Lyman: No, this is very generic. This is the game of life. There’s only two rules. There’s a lot of there’s a few other things to understand, but there’s only two rules. One is when we respond from a place of of love and caring instead of fear, we’ll find an answer a lot faster. And the second is it’s really based on God or the universe does not judge us at all. All we have is the law of attraction, and the Law of Attraction says things that are similar to each other vibrate, similar, similar vibration of frequency of each other, are attracted to each other. So our thoughts have a vibration. Three categories or three elements. Our thoughts have a vibration, our actions have a vibration, and our emotions have a vibration. And the challenge with emotions is they’re bigger than time and space. So if I had an emotional experience two years ago or 20 years ago, I didn’t feel completely that energy stored within me and the universe. The Law of Attraction says, oh, I want you to feel better. I’m going to remind you of this old emotional energy you’re holding on to. I’m going to remind you with an irritation, with an annoyance in real time. And nobody has taught us before. Hey, there’s a connection between this annoyance and the opportunity to release this old emotion and make our life better with fewer annoyances. That’s the book.
Lee Kantor: Now, when you came to this kind of spiritual awakening as a scientist, did you immediately say, I am going to test this thesis using scientific, uh, you know, fundamentals? Am I going to double blind test this? I’m going to do some research. I’m going to really hold this hypothesis, uh, to the scientific method.
Randy Lyman: So the the, the best I can explain a scientific method was whenever I had an irritation, and I set my intention on finding the underlying emotional issue that was related to that outside irritation or challenge in my life every single time. 100% of the time I attempted to do this, I succeeded. I didn’t always understand the reason, but as soon as I felt whatever I needed to feel and release that emotional energy. The outside world changed 100% of the time. So I guess part of the double blind test is there was problems I tried to fix in my life, like like relationships with vendors through logic and reason. And I got nowhere for months. And then that part of me kicks in and says, Randy, you know better than this. You know, you got to look at the emotion. And I’d go and look at the emotion, and I’d do one of my exercises tapping, journaling. There’s 14 different exercises in chapter seven of the book. And I would go through one of the exercises and I’d get to a place of feeling, I don’t have the ball, I don’t have to cry. Sometimes I get just a feeling in my body. Sometimes I’ll get a tear in my eye. That’s it. But I had a physical, tangible, physical feeling come through where I changed that old emotional energy into a physical action or feeling of heat. Then the problem went away. So I’d work on a problem for weeks or months. It would not resolve itself. Again, I remember. Hey, go back to the emotion. I feel the emotion and you’re talking within hours or days. The problem would be fixed.
Lee Kantor: But when this happened, I mean, as a scientist, you have to agree that when something happens anecdotally in science, people don’t, you know, take it to market. They test it. Did you did you go to a stranger and or come up to somebody or have somebody, you know, go through the process, um, and test it, you know, kind of with somebody in the wild that wasn’t you?
Randy Lyman: Yes, absolutely. So coworkers I worked with, I’ve had, uh, got over 20 men cry at my desk, come up and see me and start talking, and I just hold that space, listen, ask a few questions, and pretty soon they’re in a place where they’re emotional because I’m comfortable with it. They’re comfortable with it. They feel what they need to feel. I talk to them a him a few days later and the problem’s gone. I’ve worked with family members, I’ve worked with neighbors, I’ve worked with, um, friends and acquaintances and just held that space and asked questions. And when they get to that place of emotional release again, whether it’s small or large, they feel it. And then I ask them later, hey, how’s how are you doing? How’s things going? God, that that problem went away. And pretty much every time I can’t say for certain 100%, but pretty much every time, at least 80% of the time, those people’s particular problems, they were speaking with me about speaking to me about where they had a chance to feel whatever they needed to feel. Their problem went away. Now we still need to address challenges. I still had to fire people. I still had to get rid of vendors. I still had to deal with lawsuits and rules and all those things in the material world that doesn’t go away. But at the same time, in order to keep that problem from recurring in my life. The emotional healing, as I call it, or experience, kept that problem from getting bigger or coming back again.
Lee Kantor: So if somebody out there is struggling and would like to give your, um, hypothesis a go, uh, where can people find the third element and where can people connect with you? Is there a central website for some of this, uh, material?
Randy Lyman: There is a central website. My my name, Randy Lyman. Com I’ll run together. Uh, last name l y m a n so Randy Lyman, they can find access to my book. They can find access to books that I’ve been helpful for me, practitioners I work with for, uh, hypnotherapy and, uh, Reiki and things like that. They have access to, um, some of my tapping exercises. But the book is the best place to start because it’s so logical and reasonable and easy to understand, and I think that’s the best place to start. Not because I want to sell books, because right now the e-book version is dirt cheap. I think it’s just a couple bucks. And this is about helping people understand the rules of life that are pretty simple, and regaining control and getting hope in their life, and having faith in God and realizing I can take charge of my thoughts, my actions work through some emotions and my life’s going to improve. So my website’s the best place to start.
Lee Kantor: Well, Randy, thank you so much for sharing your story today. You’re doing important work and we appreciate you.
Randy Lyman: Well, thank you for having me on. This has been fun. Your questions have been great. I like the work you’re doing.
Lee Kantor: All right. This is Lee Kantor. We’ll see you all next time on High Velocity Radio.
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