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The Value of Collaboration, with Samantha McElhaney, Pinnacle Financial Partners

October 12, 2023 by John Ray

Samantha McElhaney
North Fulton Studio
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[00:00:00] Samantha McElhaney: I really like working with small business owners, but I have an opportunity right now to work with companies. And I’ve been introduced to companies in that need, 40, 50, 60 billion in financing, and they’re not getting factual information from other banks or they’re not getting the information that they need from other lenders.

[00:00:21] Samantha McElhaney: So I’m able at Pinnacle to pull in other people in different departments and all across the United States and they’re getting on the phone or they’re getting on zoom or they’re even getting in a plane and coming here to Georgia to work with me and help my prospects or my clients with those opportunities.

[00:00:41] Samantha McElhaney: And there’s no competition. There’s no, “I’ve got to meet a goal, so Sam get out of the way,” or.. I’m learning. At 30 years in my career, I’m learning just like my clients are learning of our capabilities and it’s fun. And they’re seeing it on my face, my clients are seeing it, and they’re eager to learn about what, not only capabilities we have, but how I can help, how my coworkers can help, and we’re all learning together.

[00:01:06] Samantha McElhaney: And if we can’t do it, we’re getting them in front of other institutions that can help, and there’s no fighting. among each other about that. And it’s just fantastic that we’re trying to help the business succeed.

Listen to Samantha’s full ProfitSense with Bill McDermott interview here. 


The “One Minute Interview” series is produced by John Ray and the North Fulton studio of Business RadioX® in Alpharetta. You can find the full archive of shows by following this link.

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Dan Mahony, Transcendent Sales Solutions, Keith Costley, Keck & Wood, Inc., and Samantha McElhaney, Pinnacle Financial Partners

September 29, 2023 by John Ray

Dan Mahony
North Fulton Studio
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Dan Mahony, Transcendent Sales Solutions, Keith Costley, Keck & Wood, Inc., and Samantha McElhaney, Pinnacle Financial Partners (ProfitSense with Bill McDermott, Episode 49)

Dan Mahony, Transcendent Sales Solutions, Keith Costley, Keck & Wood, and Samantha McElhaney of Pinnacle Financial Partners joined host Bill McDermott for a roundtable discussion about what it takes to have a good mindset for sales. Each of them shared their career journey and their experience in sales. Bill led them through a conversation about the critical elements of mindset that contribute to effective sales, such as intentionality, collaboration, transparency, and honesty. They also discussed the skills that are important such as listening, curiosity, building trust over time, doing your research and more. Each guest concluded with their key advice based on their years of experience.

Bill wrapped up the episode with his thoughts on thinking like a buyer.

ProfitSense with Bill McDermott is produced and broadcast by the North Fulton Studio of Business RadioX® in Alpharetta.

Transcendent Sales Solutions

Transcendent Sales Solutions is focused on empowering companies with tactical sales strategies to accelerate revenue growth. Dan is an agile, results-oriented, and charismatic leader with a proven track record of turning underperforming sales organizations into revenue producing market leaders. He has a unique ability to create sales messaging and processes that increase revenue, decrease headaches, and provide order and definition in place of chaos and confusion. 

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Dan Mahony, President, Transcendent Sales Solutions

Dan Mahony, President, Transcendent Sales Solutions

Dan Mahony is the President of Transcendent Sales Solutions, a company that helps and empowers small to mid-sized businesses in turning underperforming sales teams into revenue-producing market leaders. Transcendent Sales Solutions takes a proven results-oriented strategic and tactical approach by developing successful sales plans, building a strict sales approach, and aligning sales teams that will help a business marketing operation run effectively.

Dan has a unique ability to create sales messaging and processes that increase revenue, decrease headaches, and provide order and definition in place of chaos and confusion. 

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Keck & Wood, Inc.

Keck & Wood, Inc., founded in 1954, provides professional civil engineering, landscape architecture, and land surveying services to clients throughout the southeast.

The company has 65 employees in four offices. Duluth and Fayetteville, GA as well as Rock Hill and North Charleston, SC. Our clients include city and county governments, utility companies, state agencies, education institutions, and private developers. 

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Keith Costley, President & CEO, Keck & Wood, Inc.

Keith Costley, President & CEO, Keck & Wood, Inc.

Keith Costley is the President / CEO of Keck & Wood, Inc., a 65 person civil engineering firm headquartered in Duluth, GA. He graduated from Vanderbilt University with a civil engineering degree in 1994 and has become licensed as a Professional Engineer in GA, SC and NC.

He joined the firm as a Project Manager in their Rock Hill, SC office in 2000 and has steadily progressed his career by becoming the office leader in 2012 and then the President / CEO in 2017.

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Pinnacle Financial Partners

Pinnacle is much more than a bank. It’s a place for people to find true partners for their business. It’s a place where seasoned professionals give clients unmatched service and advice that better their financial well-being. And it’s a place where people love coming to work every day.

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Samantha McElhaney, Commercial Financial Advisor, Pinnacle Financial Partners

Samantha McElhaney, Commercial Financial Advisor, Pinnacle Financial Partners

Sam has been in the financial services industry for 30 years and works hard to solve the daily business struggles of her clients. When she is not working closely with clients, she is out networking with individuals, so she has resources to solve problems and to connect others to regularly. If Sam is connecting people, she feels her day is fulfilled.

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About ProfitSense and Your Host, Bill McDermott

Bill McDermott
Bill McDermott

ProfitSense with Bill McDermott dives into the stories behind some of Atlanta’s successful businesses and business owners and the professionals that advise them. This show helps local business leaders get the word out about the important work they’re doing to serve their market, their community, and their profession. The show is presented by McDermott Financial Solutions. McDermott Financial helps business owners improve cash flow and profitability, find financing, break through barriers to expansion, and financially prepare to exit their business. The show archive can be found at profitsenseradio.com.

Bill McDermott is the Founder and CEO of McDermott Financial Solutions. When business owners want to increase their profitability, they don’t have the expertise to know where to start or what to do. Bill leverages his knowledge and relationships from 32 years as a banker to identify the hurdles getting in the way and create a plan to deliver profitability they never thought possible.

Bill currently serves as Treasurer for the Atlanta Executive Forum and has held previous positions as a board member for the Kennesaw State University Entrepreneurship Center and Gwinnett Habitat for Humanity and Treasurer for CEO NetWeavers. Bill is a graduate of Wake Forest University and he and his wife, Martha have called Atlanta home for over 40 years. Outside of work, Bill enjoys golf, traveling, and gardening.

Connect with Bill on LinkedIn and Twitter and follow McDermott Financial Solutions on LinkedIn.

TRANSCRIPT

Intro: [00:00:03] Broadcasting from the Business RadioX studio in Alpharetta, it’s Time for Profit Sense with Bill McDermott.

Bill McDermott: [00:00:17] Good morning. Welcome to Profit Sense. This podcast dives into the stories behind some of Atlanta’s successful businesses and business owners and the professionals that advise them. We help local business leaders get the word out about the important work they’re doing to serve their market, their community, and their profession, as well as discuss current issues that business owners are facing today across a wide variety of industries.

Bill McDermott: [00:00:44] I’m your host, Bill McDermott, and this show is presented by The Profitability Coach. When business owners want to increase their profitability, they often don’t have the expertise to know where to start or what to do, I leverage my knowledge and relationships from over 32 years as a banker and 14 years as a business coach now to identify the hurdles getting in the way and create a plan to deliver profitability they never thought possible.

Bill McDermott: [00:01:10] We’re going to be talking sales today, selling professional services. First, I want to introduce Keith Costley who is president and CEO of Keck & Wood. Keith, so glad you’re on Profit Sense. And by the way, welcome back because I was privileged to have you as a guest previously.

Keith Costley: [00:01:30] Yeah, thanks, Bill. It’s great to be back. I feel like a veteran and I really appreciate my relationship with you and our company’s relationship with you. We’ve been in the trenches together before. So, glad to be here.

Bill McDermott: [00:01:42] Yeah, and we’re delighted to have you. So, talk a little bit about Keck & Wood, founded in 54, providing professional civil engineering and other things. Talk about that a little bit.

Keith Costley: [00:01:55] That’s right. Founded in 54. So we’re heading towards our 70th anniversary as a firm, which we’re pretty excited about.

Bill McDermott: [00:02:03] Wow.

Keith Costley: [00:02:03] But our core services are civil engineering. We also do landscape architecture and provide planning and consulting services. But the core to our business is providing solutions to public sector and private sector clients who have a wide variety of needs, whether they be regulatory, development, engineering, solutions, consulting. But our bread and butter is city and county government providing a wide range of services. And we also do design work for private clients as well.

Bill McDermott: [00:02:42] And I love your tagline, “Collaboration By Design.” Talk briefly about that.

Keith Costley: [00:02:46] So, we believe that collaboration is just – has to be at the core of our business and our relationships and not only external relationships with clients but internal relationships. If we’re really going to maximize our success as a firm, we have to be collaborative in how we do our business, how we treat each other internally, and be collaborative with our clients. So that’s why our tagline is what it is.

Bill McDermott: [00:03:09] Yeah, well, and it’s a great one. I also want to welcome Dan Mahony who is president and CEO of Transcendent Sales Solutions. Dan, delighted to have you back. So, welcome back to Profit Sense.

Dan Mahony: [00:03:21] Bill, thanks for having me. It’s great to be here.

Bill McDermott: [00:03:23] And Dan is president of Transcendent Sales, which is a company that helps and empowers small to mid-sized businesses and turning underperforming sales teams into revenue-producing market leaders. So, Dan, talk about that briefly.

Dan Mahony: [00:03:36] Well, I started my business five years ago. I’m on my fifth anniversary. And what I do is, I help those business owners and CEOs that struggle with sales. A lot of times they started the company and they are running their companies. Plus, they’re the head of sales and they’re also the top sales producers. So, especially when you’re getting ready to sell your business, there needs to be that separation for the new buyer. And I work with those companies to help them build the right processes, the right systems, put the right people in there, and have the right strategy.

Bill McDermott: [00:04:09] Yeah. And it’s really about transferring those selling skills from the business owner to that next level of management. So, there is actual transfer – transferable value in the firm, isn’t it, Dan?

Dan Mahony: [00:04:21] Absolutely. And it’s that the skills and the relationships too, is how do you take those relationships from all those years and transfer them over to somebody new when they’re not there anymore?

Bill McDermott: [00:04:31] Yeah, yeah. Great point. And the baby boomer generation is retiring in droves. And so, we’re going to talk more about sales. And I’m excited what you have to contribute to the conversation.

Bill McDermott: [00:04:43] And Samantha McElhaney. Samantha, I believe, is maybe one of the best bankers in the city of Atlanta. Samantha, welcome.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:04:53] Thanks, Bill. Just call me Sam.

Bill McDermott: [00:04:55] All right, Sam. So, Pinnacle Financial Partners. You do a lot of commercial financial advisory business – advisory services. I know financial services because I’ve sold in that space before. You have a unique perspective on that. But talk a little bit about the work that you do and talk a little bit about Pinnacle Financial Partners.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:05:18] Yeah, the last time I was here exactly a year ago, I couldn’t announce that I had moved to Pinnacle Financial Partners. I was actually here with Keith doing a podcast and I just joined Pinnacle Financial Partners. So, it was a year ago, celebrating my anniversary.

Bill McDermott: [00:05:37] Wow! Happy anniversary.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:05:39] Thank you.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:05:39] And it’s the best decision I ever made because I’m with all of my old teammates from former banks, SunTrust, Synovus, Wells Fargo. We’ve assembled an all-star team here in Atlanta, and we are doing what we love, helping business owners make decisions financially that they need to either start their business, grow their business, transition their business, but also help them with their personal needs as well, too. So, it’s just the ideal job as far as banking is concerned.

Bill McDermott: [00:06:15] Yeah. And the thing about banking and financial services is obviously the more a business sells in revenue, the more deposits that a bank will have to be able to loan out. And so – but it’s not really selling as much as it is helping business owners solve problems.

Bill McDermott: [00:06:38] So let the four of us kick off this whole topic of sales. You know, I’ve learned recently over the last couple of years that before we can deal with skill set, we have to deal with mindset. And, Sam, one of the things that I think you do really well and I want to get Keith and Dan’s perspective because I’m sure they do this well also being clients set – being client-centric, one of the mindsets. You know, we have to be able to put our client’s needs before our own and deliver the solutions that meet those needs. So, how have you become the client-centric banker that you are?

Samantha McElhaney: [00:07:26] I think over the years, especially after becoming a mother, you have to put other people’s needs first. I’m a big faith believer. I go to church and it’s not just about going to church. It’s just, you know, getting up every day and having those conversations with my God. And that’s why I work where I work because our institution is a big faith-based institution as well, too.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:07:57] And putting those things into practice and knowing that if I put others first and their needs first, it will pay dividends long term. And so, listening to those individuals and listening to what they need in their life, and it may not be anything financial. I have a new client that had not had a vacation in years and they’re now right now at Disney World and all the family members are down there in Disney. And one of the things that I personally wanted to do and Pinnacle allows me to do it is I wanted to put a big gift basket in their hotel room so that when they open the door, it just welcomed them to Disney and they got to celebrate time with their family. So I got a text message on Saturday that said, “Wow, we opened the door and there was this huge gift basket that just said, ‘Welcome to Disney, you know, blank family.'” And they were just so thrilled and so excited that I got to do something like that to help them all celebrate. And it was a cooler full of, you know, water bottles and snacks and things. So they didn’t have to worry about going and getting all those things while they went out and visited Epcot and Magic Kingdom and stuff.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:09:01] So just taking that burden off of the family, that just makes me feel better as a banker on a regular basis. And that has nothing to do with financial whatsoever.

Bill McDermott: [00:09:10] Yeah. And, Keith, I know the time that you and I spent in the trenches figuring out the direction that you were going to take Keck & Wood, the tagline, “Collaboration By Design,” I think, if I recall correctly, deeply embedded in that was to really create the collaboration with clients and have the engineers also become client-centric and putting your client’s needs first. How have you seen that dream that you had become a reality?

Keith Costley: [00:09:45] In a lot of different ways. You know, we sell professional services and the value that we have is just through our expertise in our time. And I think the key to us being collaborative with our clients is building trust over time and adding value to every interaction that we have with them.

Keith Costley: [00:10:06] Give them a reason to respond to your email, to pick up the phone and take your call because they’re getting bombarded every day from all directions, from all manner of people and vendors and everything else. So, you have to give them a reason to spend time with you. And that’s really important to building that collaborative relationship with the client. They see you as an expert or having some expertise and they know when they interact with you, you’re going to be able to share something with them that’s useful in their lives.

Bill McDermott: [00:10:37] Yeah. And, Dan, I know you and I have had conversations. A lot of people have the mindset that selling is transactional, but in the vein of client-centric, it’s really relational. So as you talk to those solopreneurs or those business owners, whether they be large businesses or smaller businesses, what mindset issues around changing the perspective from this is a transaction to it being a relationship and the relationship is focusing on the client and not the person.

Dan Mahony: [00:11:22] Yeah, it’s from that perspective. When a lot of business owners, again, they have forecast, they have pipelines and you know, a lot of the salespeople, they get trained in the word I’ve used before is that’s been used as coin operated. It’s there. Okay. We have an opportunity and we just need to go in and we need to put our selling shoes on and we need to close it. And it’s just so easy to go and just from point A to point B, but in that relationship build, it’s so much more. It’s more like a chess game versus a game of checkers. I mean, there’s a lot of people to know. There’s a lot of things to understand before you earn the right to ask them for that business. So, it’s making them understand that yeah you have sales goals, but point A to point B, the straight line is not always the path that you have to take when you’re working on something that’s more complex from a sales perspective.

Bill McDermott: [00:12:18] Yeah. Is there a particular story maybe of a client that you’ve worked with recently that might come to mind where you were kind of dealing with this whole selling mindset versus relational mindset?

Dan Mahony: [00:12:33] Yeah. I worked with a client that, you know, worked very large transactions. And, you know, one of the problems they had is they just had the wrong team. And there was that mindset. Their mindset was, we’re going to go out and we’re going to get an order today and we’re going to go out and we’re going to win today. And you want to have that positivity. But they were dealing with companies that were Fortune 250 companies, and the transaction sizes were high six to sometimes low eight-figure transactions. And you’re just not going to go in and write a two-page proposal and send it to somebody and they’re going to sign off on it. So they didn’t understand that complexity of it.

Dan Mahony: [00:13:10] So after we put in the right first people and then we surrounded them with the right process on how we’re going to go about these sales, yeah, they’ve seen – they’ve seen system sales increase by probably 300% over the last couple of years just because, and again, it’s more time. We’re very methodical. But every conversation, everything we’re doing at every time is an event. And if you have a half-hour conversation, we’re going to prepare an hour to an hour and a half for that one conversation and getting them in that you just don’t go on the fly. You know, I think a lot of salespeople have this Superman or Superwoman complex. They could just go in and just handle any situation. And a lot of times they can’t. And they realize and you don’t get a lot of – in big opportunities, you don’t get a do-over.

Bill McDermott: [00:14:04] Right. No mulligans.

Dan Mahony: [00:14:06] No mulligans in sales. Absolutely.

Bill McDermott: [00:14:09] So, Keith, I think the next mindset is around what we’ve already talked about that it’s necessary for that professional to be collaborative, and collaborating effectively is being able to do it with others. That’s harder for some people than it is for others. How do you share ideas and work towards common goals? So certainly, there’s been a mindset shift probably in your collaboration by design. Talk about that a little bit. How is the importance of a collaborative mindset necessary?

Keith Costley: [00:14:49] Well, I think a lot of – we had really good bones before I became CEO six or seven years ago. But I think the key is, is being intentional about what it is that you’re trying to do, what is the message you’re putting out there to the marketplace and how can you leverage that to the benefit of your clients and to the company. But, you know, it’s – sometimes we find ourselves pursuing a wide variety of projects for a wide variety of clients.

Keith Costley: [00:15:21] And sometimes even just recently, we’ve started to develop a capture plan template to help us focus on, well, instead of trying to be everything to everybody and trying to communicate out there, how do we, you know, make that pool of potential clients smaller and do a deeper dive and really invest that time and research and understanding what their needs are and understanding those people and getting to learn those people and building that trust while we’re trying to build an understanding of what their needs are, what future projects are. And it just takes intentionality to allow yourself to pursue less volume of work but hopefully be more successful at meeting your client’s needs and ultimately building more business for your company.

Keith Costley: [00:16:09] And people kind of get in the mindset sometimes that we need revenue, I need to sell, you know, I need to be successful in sales and I need to pursue anything and everything that we could possibly do. And as we are growing up as a firm and growing as a firm, we’re taking a step back and going, “Now let’s get more focused. Let’s do a deeper dive on five clients rather than trying to pursue 25 clients.”

Bill McDermott: [00:16:33] Yeah, yeah, because you can go an inch wide or you can go five feet deep. But there is an intentional choice that gets made. I personally prefer to go deep versus wide.

Keith Costley: [00:16:50] Sure. But that’s not necessarily the natural mindset that people are in.

Bill McDermott: [00:16:54] Right.

Keith Costley: [00:16:54] You know, they just, you know, we can do that, you know, so let’s go after that.

Bill McDermott: [00:16:58] Yeah, yeah.

Keith Costley: [00:16:59] And sometimes it’s better to take a step back and be more intentional and strategic in the types of clients and projects that you pursue. And that’s just something that we’re learning how to do better.

Bill McDermott: [00:17:09] Yeah. And, Sam, I think part of your mindset is your approach to really put the team at the disposal of the client, and that client may have different problems to solve and likely you become the quarterback of the team. So, how has collaboration played out in delivering professional services to business owners?

Samantha McElhaney: [00:17:39] Yeah, it’s really frustrated me over the years when different bankers have said that they’re all things to all people because you can’t be all things to all people. We just read a book at Pinnacle because we read books on a quarterly basis. And I mentioned to you, Bill, the book that we just finished was one called Unreasonable Hospitality, and it’s been focused and featured on the shows, the Bear and Billionaires and stuff. And in the book, it talks about not being all things to all people, just be all things to that one in front of you at that moment at that time. And I love the fact that it says, you know, be good at what you do and then get all the others around you and what they’re good at and just assemble this amazing team around you.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:18:30] So, you know, I really like working with small business owners, but I have an opportunity right now to work with companies and I’ve been introduced to companies that need, you know, 40, 50, $60 billion in financing and they’re not getting factual information from other banks or they’re not getting the information that they need from other lenders. So, I’m able at Pinnacle to pull in other people in different departments and all across the United States and they’re getting on the phone or they’re getting on Zoom or they’re even getting in a plane and coming here to Georgia to work with me and help my prospects or my clients with those opportunities. And there’s no competition. There’s no I’ve got to meet a goal, or, Sam, get out of the way, or I’m learning.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:19:21] At 30 years in my career, I’m learning just like my clients are learning of our capabilities. And it’s fun and they’re seeing it on my face. My clients are seeing it, and they’re eager to learn about what, not only capabilities we have but how I can help, how my coworkers can help. And we’re all learning together. And if we can’t do it, we’re getting them in front of other institutions that can help. And there’s no fighting with and among each other about that. And it’s just fantastic that we’re trying to help the business succeed.

Bill McDermott: [00:19:55] Yeah. Thanks for sharing that. That’s awesome. We’re talking today with Dan Mahony, who’s president and CEO of Transcendent Sales Solutions. Transcendent is focused on empowering companies with tactical sales strategies to accelerate revenue growth. We’re also talking to Keith Costley with Keck & Wood, as Keith mentioned, a company that provides civil engineering landscape architectural and land surveying services, companies in four offices in Duluth and Fayetteville, Georgia, as well as Rock Hill and North Charleston, South Carolina.

Bill McDermott: [00:20:32] And then Samantha McElhaney with Pinnacle Financial Partners. So Sam has, as she said, 30 years in the financial services industry and works hard to solve her clients’ daily business struggles. When she’s not closely working with clients, she’s out networking with individuals. And I’ve seen that networking in action and it works really well.

Bill McDermott: [00:20:55] So the last thing I’m going to pick up on what Sam was talking about reading. Salespeople I think don’t understand because of the transactional mindset, Dan, they don’t look at themselves as professionals, just like a doctor or a dentist or an engineer or an attorney. So, what I’m wondering is if we could shift the topic and talk a little bit about continuous learning, having a growth mindset. You know, we’re on a journey that is leading us to become not only better people but also better professionals. So, how do lifelong learning and having a growth mindset, you think, play into being successful at selling?

Dan Mahony: [00:21:42] You know, very much so. There are so many different books out there on sales and there are so many – you know, there’s training, there’s educational videos. But, you know, I’m old school when it comes back to the fundamentals. It’s as we talked about, it’s first of all, being present. And if you’re present, the most important thing is, is you have to be a very good listener. Okay. It starts with listening, number one, and then being inquisitive and being curious and, you know, asking good questions. Because a lot of times you find with sales folks, I don’t care how many sales trainings they’ve gone through, they are thinking about what they’re going to say next when somebody is talking to them and they’re not present there. So, you know, sometimes I’m like, put all the books away and just go back to the real basic things. It’s just good listening skills. And if you are present, actually be present.

Bill McDermott: [00:22:35] Yeah, yeah. So, asking questions that are based on curiosity, Keith, I guess, how have you used that growth mindset in building a culture of successful engineering professionals?

Keith Costley: [00:22:56] I think some of the key concepts, and I totally agree with what Dan just said, you know, being curious about what your client needs is. Asking good questions is just – it’s just absolutely critical. But, you know, in order to, you know, build relationships, I find that instead of coming into an interaction with a client and wanting to talk about us or me, you know, if we turn that around and make sure that we’re learning about them or doing our research, we’re talking about them. And even when we’re doing, writing articles, are we writing articles about what we did or are we celebrating our clients and the cool projects that they’ve done?

Keith Costley: [00:23:45] You know, are we – when we’re posting on social media, are we talking about our successes and our people, which is important, but are we also celebrating our clients and their people and the good things that they’re doing? So, you know, it just takes a moment and we try to instill in our culture to be a client-centric, have a client-centric approach, and get out of our own heads. Because when we submit proposals and statements of qualifications too much, it’s all about us instead of it being about the client. And we’re trying to learn and improve that every day.

Bill McDermott: [00:24:24] Yeah. And, Sam, in your professional journey, I know that you are a lifelong learner and you and I share books and I’m going to read, what was it?

Samantha McElhaney: [00:24:38] Unreasonable Hospitality.

Bill McDermott: [00:24:39] Unreasonable Hospitality. That is a provocative title.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:24:42] Yeah.

Bill McDermott: [00:24:42] So I look forward to that. But you’ve been a lifelong learner. That’s who you are. Do you have a sense of what has made you that way?

Samantha McElhaney: [00:24:55] Well, I mean, I’m supposed to be a teacher and I’ve got a daughter who’s going to be a teacher.

Bill McDermott: [00:24:59] Okay.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:25:00] And I constantly crave feedback. I think when I meet people because of emotional intelligence, if I can’t pick up on it myself, if I’ve either done something well or I’ve not done something well, I beg people to tell me. I hopefully pick up on it. But if I don’t, I beg you to tell me one way or the other. Let me know that I’ve done it well. Give me good feedback or even give me the bad feedback. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with hitting the elephant in the room straight on because we can learn from it.

Bill McDermott: [00:25:39] Sure.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:25:40] So, for instance, Dan and I are in a networking group together and he knows my eye will blow his phone up and go, “Hey, give me some feedback here. How did that go? How did that – how did the meeting go? How did the presentation go? What can we do better as a group to grow the group, to make the group better?” I just – I want everything to not be perfect because you can’t be perfect, but like you said earlier present because a strong group makes for better opportunities for everyone in the group to be successful. So, more feedback makes for better education, makes for better prosperity for everybody.

Bill McDermott: [00:26:16] Sure. So I think we’ve talked about mindsets and being client-centric, being collaborative and being continuous learners. Let’s kind of, before we move on to successful skill sets, can we synthesize all of those three things? Dan, any closing thoughts on the synthesis of client-centric, collaborative, and continuous learning?

Dan Mahony: [00:26:43] Well, and just what Sam said, it’s that – it’s that feedback, is if you’re in a true collaboration and you’re working as a team and having that and being open to that feedback is important because many times, even though we’re collaborating, people, you know, people don’t want to get called out or they can’t, they take that honest feedback is not a learning opportunity but is an attack or they take it, personal. So, you know, if to have the right mindset, you have to go in at that. I’m always learning and I’m open to learning because, you know, my dad always says, “Hey, listen when you stop learning,” he’s 83 years old, “when you stop learning is when it’s all over.” And he’s still learning at 83.

Bill McDermott: [00:27:26] Yeah. That’s awesome. Keith, synthesizing it in your mind?

Keith Costley: [00:27:31] I think one of the key concepts is just being curious. And so if you are curious enough to want to know from your client and get the feedback from them, how are we doing? That’s a really powerful question.

Bill McDermott: [00:27:47] Yeah, people don’t –

Keith Costley: [00:27:48] How are we doing?

Bill McDermott: [00:27:49] Yeah, people don’t care how much you know, till they know how much you care.

Keith Costley: [00:27:52] Right, right. And so even if you get some tough feedback because nobody’s perfect, no company is perfect. But if you’re willing to ask the question, then you’ve taken a huge step.

Bill McDermott: [00:28:06] Yeah, yeah.

Keith Costley: [00:28:06] You know, and – so, I think that being willing to be curious and ask those types of questions of your clients does nothing but deepen that relationship.

Bill McDermott: [00:28:17] Yeah.

Keith Costley: [00:28:18] Really important.

Bill McDermott: [00:28:19] Sam, as you kind of bring those three things, what are kind of final thoughts from you on mindset issues?

Samantha McElhaney: [00:28:29] I think it was during COVID someone suggested to me to pick a word every year and live by that word. And so, and I think that has to go with mindset. And so 2023, I picked transparency, which I think goes with what you’re talking about. And as long as we all remain transparent, I think we can hit a good mindset with, you know, our client-centric collaboration, curiosity and continuous education, and everybody will be on the same page and – or at least know where everybody stands and move forward.

Bill McDermott: [00:29:03] Right, right. It’s a great point. So shifting to skill set, Dan, I’m going to pick up on something that you said earlier when we’re talking about technical skills. Selling is not about talking. Selling is about listening. And so, I think one of the technical skills is not only being present but listening while you’re present. Talk about that.

Dan Mahony: [00:29:30] Well, I think when we’re having a discussion with somebody, as I mentioned before, many times we’re trying to think about what we’re going to say next versus actually listening, listening to them. So I think it’s really important, you know, from a skill set perspective is going back to being curious, I mean realizing that you have a lot of research that you can do before you go and meet somebody. I mean, think about when we used to go to try to meet somebody 30 years ago, we didn’t know anything. Now we have so much information and I think it gives us the ability, you know, as we’re communicating and we’re listening to them, you know, we should know more when we’re going in which we ever did before. And if that’s the case, you know, our conversations should be much more specific than just in a general sense.

Dan Mahony: [00:30:22] Like I always say in sales, like the first question, you know, and especially in this day and age, when somebody walks in and says, “Hey, Bill, it’s nice to meet you. So tell me a little bit about your company.” That’s usually the “Are you kidding me?” I mean, you’re asking me about the company. You should you should know all these things already. So, yeah, it’s, you know, those are some things that are just real important as, you know, being prepared and, you know, just those good listening skills and, you know, going in with a plan, too.

Bill McDermott: [00:30:53] Yeah. And I think, Keith, one of the things that is part of your sales process is certainly technical knowledge. But beyond technical knowledge, what are some of the things that you see the successful people in your organization possessing as skill sets?

Keith Costley: [00:31:15] Curiosity for sure. We try to have our people. We don’t have anybody in our organization that is their sole responsibility is sales. So, we have a doer seller model. And one of our challenges as a company as we grow is to clearly establish who in the company is responsible for maintaining relationships, building relationships and producing the sales, the growth and revenue.

Keith Costley: [00:31:48] And so it’s just making sure that those people are aware that they have that responsibility, they have tools. We have some basic mindset that we need for them to be in and questions that they need to be asking and researching and being curious about. It all ties together and then developing some processes around this is how we do it. This is the Keck & Wood way to prepare for a meeting. This is how we strategize on what clients are pursuing and why. These are the questions that we have to answer, ask and answer, before we put time, effort and money into developing relationships with different clients.

Keith Costley: [00:32:33] And so, yeah, it’s really exciting time as we grow as a company to help our staff realize these things. You know, we all went to some type of professional school and got some kind of technical degree and we have to teach our people how to be effective friends and client representatives and managers and be able to do sales. And it all works together.

Bill McDermott: [00:33:01] Yeah. Dan?

Dan Mahony: [00:33:02] I think one of the hard things when you have somebody that’s technical is, you know, you’re a nuclear physicist. How do you go and explain nuclear physicist to somebody that doesn’t understand it at all? And it’s trying to understand how you, you know, water it down a little bit and simplify something that’s very complex, like civil engineering or anything like that.

Keith Costley: [00:33:24] It is really hard. I had my own experience with that. I was talking with an accountant about tax-related issues and I was just getting very valid information from this person, but it was very technical and it was formed this and ruled this. And I’m like, “Whoa, you’re speaking a language I don’t understand.” So to speak to your point, it is difficult for some of our highly skilled, highly technical people to boil it down to common sense language that a city manager or a mayor or somebody can understand. And that’s a challenge. That’s definitely a real challenge.

Bill McDermott: [00:34:01] Yeah, great point, Dan. Sam, to build a little bit on what Keith said in technical skills and maybe even in communication skills, the power is in the question that you’re asking rooted in curiosity. So as you have developed as a successful sales professional, how have you crafted your questions to me, more powerful or more meaningful to the person that you’re sitting with in the meeting?

Samantha McElhaney: [00:34:36] Oh, okay. It really all depends on the person. I mean, like Dan has said earlier, a lot of time is spent upfront researching. I mean, I live and breathe by LinkedIn and finding out not only about the individual but researching with my connections what they know about the individual and specific things I need to know. Finding out articles. I do a lot of keyword searches and indicate the person down the road in case some current events or things happen so that I can bring that into the conversation.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:35:16] But, I mean, even though I am a more aggressive individual, I always try to find out about the individual family-wise or significant events, vacations. Pictures can tell a lot. So you can start conversations off with key events that are happening with the person’s life. I mean, if you look at my social media posts, I mean, of course, it shows my twins. So if someone never asks me about my twins, I have a real problem connecting to them.

Bill McDermott: [00:35:46] Because they’re a big part of your life.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:35:47] Because they are my life.

Bill McDermott: [00:35:49] Yeah.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:35:50] Or a football.

Bill McDermott: [00:35:51] Right, right.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:35:52] This is my season of the year. So if you don’t ask me about college football right now, it’s going to be a real hard time trying to connect.

Bill McDermott: [00:35:59] So, I’m trying to say this with –

Samantha McElhaney: [00:36:02] All due respect.

Bill McDermott: [00:36:04] Passion, but Roll Tide.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:36:05] Yes. But I’m also a Gamecock, so.

Bill McDermott: [00:36:08] Okay. Okay.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:36:09] But yeah, so doing those types of things will help an individual connect and therefore ask the right of questions. But if I’m listening, then I can make the right transitions and go down the path of asking the right questions and then funneling them, making those questions, start opening them really large, and then going more direct to the avenue that the person needs to go to.

Bill McDermott: [00:36:32] So, Dan, technical and communication skills seem to kind of blend together, but we as professionals know that from our EQ, we’re creating conversations either of resonance or dissonance. We, you and I, as we have had coffee together, our conversation resonates. It creates harmony. I’m picking up what you’re putting down and I think vice versa. And so, we’re probably aware of those resonance harmony or dissonance disharmony conversations that we’re having. And so, how does that play in in your experience into the sales process as you’re sitting across from the table, maybe even thinking, “Gosh, I’m really loving this conversation,” or, “I’m really struggling to connect with this person and don’t really know how”?

Dan Mahony: [00:37:32] Well, I mean, you never know. I mean, it’s you go in and you can do all the research. You can stalk them on LinkedIn like Samantha does. I mean, we could do all of these things and we could look at all their pictures and everything. And when you show up with that person, you just don’t know what they get. They could get having a bad day. They could have just – they could have just lost the deal. You know –

Bill McDermott: [00:37:55] Their dog died.

Dan Mahony: [00:37:56] Their dog is sick or died. I mean, you just don’t know. So it’s, you know, sometimes it’s timing. I mean, it’s – you know, sales is they say – is sales an art or is it a science? I’ve always said it’s a little bit of both. And you know, and, you know, not to go and get back into movies, but it is like a box of chocolates.

Bill McDermott: [00:38:15] Yep.

Dan Mahony: [00:38:16] Because you never know what you’re going to get on that one call. You could meet somebody one day and they’re Mr. Talkative and they could meet him in the next week and they’re closed-off and they don’t want to have it. So it’s just being flexible and being quick on your feet just to, you know, just try to get as much out of them. And sometimes, and I’ve had conversations with someone you could that is closed-off say, “You don’t really want to have this conversation today, do you?” And they’re like, “Not really.” And I was like, “Can we do it next week? Is that it would be next week?” And they actually appreciate that.

Bill McDermott: [00:38:49] Yeah. Because you can sometimes read their body language. They’re either feeling – you’re feeling disconnected to them or – and then like you said, maybe something happened in their life and they just can’t focus. Well, the worst thing that you can do is continue to have that sales call. So part of those communication skills are knowing when to call a time out and say, “Look, this is not the day to do this, is it?”

Dan Mahony: [00:39:18] Yeah. Like we always know what our objective is. Our objective is in the process to go to the next step. Sometimes you got to, you know what, let’s take a pause and we’ll do it again at another time.

Bill McDermott: [00:39:29] Yeah, yeah. And so, Keith, I’m sure you’ve had some situations where communication and the ability to guide the conversation or what do you handle in a situation if a client surprises you with a question that you didn’t expect, how important is the ability to be able to go with the flow in those conversations?

Keith Costley: [00:39:55] So, it’s important to be able to react appropriately, but it’s also really important to not say things you’re not confident in because people will understand if you don’t really know what you’re talking about. And it’s okay to say, that’s a great question and I know who I need to talk to or I know what I need to do to research that and I will get you an answer on that. That’s okay.

Bill McDermott: [00:40:19] Yeah, yeah.

Keith Costley: [00:40:19] But one of the things I was thinking about when Dan was talking was it’s – I think it’s a learned skill, too. If you have an interaction with a client and, you know, there was dissonance, you know, you didn’t connect well, it didn’t go well, whatever, to not give up on that opportunity, to find another way either recognizing that moment that, hey, maybe this isn’t the right day or time, but, you know, just because it didn’t work one time doesn’t mean that the next time it might work. And sometimes I find it’s human nature that when you feel like there wasn’t a connection and well, I’m just going to walk away from that opportunity and go on to the next thing and I would really encourage people to try to find a way to try again. And, you know, if it’s consistently you’re just not connecting with that person, then so be it. But don’t give up on one try.

Bill McDermott: [00:41:15] Yeah. Sam, I want to go to kind of our next point because I think you do this so well. Relationship-building skills, to Dan’s point, it’s really art. So as you are approaching your sales, you’re always putting that relationship first before any transaction takes place. So what do you feel like are some of the key elements based on your experience in building relationships with those clients or with those potential clients?

Samantha McElhaney: [00:41:54] I think honesty is very important upfront. Because I’m – personally, I’m not going to be everybody’s cup of tea. So I want to be upfront with those individuals and find out what they’re looking for in a partnership and make sure that my skill set will match what they’re looking for and vice versa. And if it’s not, then I want to make sure I have the teammates and the capability to help to the table. And if it’s not going to work, then introduce them to people that I know in my bag of, you know, connections and make those introductions for them.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:42:38] I want to make sure people listen. Honesty, listening, and just effort. I think effort is so important if – I tell people if you will give 100%. And if you’re not capable of it, again, the honesty comes into play. But if you’re always giving 100%, then there’s not going to be a problem there. If you can’t give that 100%, let someone else know and let someone else come in. Tag them in with the teamwork.

Bill McDermott: [00:43:07] Yeah, yeah. Great point. So as you’re talking, what came to my mind is, so I have this computer program that plays in my head. My dad told me very early on, “Bill, anything worth doing is worth doing well.” And so if you’re going to do something, then do it well. So I think that’s part of my DNA. And I think the other word that you mentioned earlier, which is your word for 2023, building relationships that are also transparent.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:43:41] Yeah. And that’s why, again, I’m so excited to be back with my old co-workers from SunTrust because this was the group that helped me when I went through cancer. I know I can trust these individuals. Because they were there for me. They allowed me to tag out and take the time, you know, go through chemo, survive, do what I needed to do. And they allowed me to tag back in and do my best work. And now I’m back with those same people and we’ll be able to do that same thing as we’re getting older and taking care of our families and all that stuff. So, yeah.

Bill McDermott: [00:44:13] Yeah, yeah. This is kind of a full-circle moment.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:44:15] It’s full circle.

Bill McDermott: [00:44:16] For you.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:44:16] Full circle.

Bill McDermott: [00:44:17] We have to celebrate that.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:44:18] Yeah.

Bill McDermott: [00:44:19] Dan, are there one or two relationship-building skills that you’re working with your business owner clients that are just kind of non-negotiables?

Dan Mahony: [00:44:31] As far as working with the owners themselves? Yeah. So, you know, for me, typically it’s there are three things that have to really occur for it to be successful. Number one, they have to realize they have a problem. Okay. Number two, it’s realizing they have a problem that themselves or anyone in their company is able to fix. The third one is if they don’t do something, the problem is not going to get any better. It’s likely to continue to decline. Those are kind of the three things I need as far as being able to work with somebody.

Dan Mahony: [00:45:05] And, you know, as far as just the relationship – that’s the basis of the relationship, is being able to like, “Hey, I’m here to help. I’m not here to be the CEO. I’m not here to be your permanent hire for VP of sales. I’m not looking to work for you. I’m just looking to help solve your problem.” And, you know, them being open to feedback is key, too. Like, we have to go in. Sometimes, we have to tell the business owners that, you know, their baby is, you know, not as handsome as they think it is. And it’s, you know, having those very tough conversations with them is they have to be open to that, or else the success is not going to happen.

Bill McDermott: [00:45:47] Sure, sure. Keith, what are you finding as some of the critical relationship-building skills that are necessary for successful engineers?

Keith Costley: [00:45:58] I think a lot of it is just understanding the individual’s role in developing relationships and maintaining relationships with our clients. And it’s really interesting to speak with some of our younger professionals who don’t realize that they can have a role in relationship building and business development and as well when they’re interacting with a client on a project. It’s okay to ask them, “Hey, what’s on your mind these days? Or what’s coming up next or whatever?” And they just – sometimes it’s just talking to them about that and having them realize, “Oh, yeah, I can ask that question.”

Bill McDermott: [00:46:38] Yeah, yeah, absolutely.

Keith Costley: [00:46:40] And so, it’s just a lot of little things. But I think one of the keys is having our people put their client’s interests first and being genuine with them and asking good questions and the rest of it just kind of flows naturally from that.

Bill McDermott: [00:46:56] Yeah. And so, I think where we’ve kind of landed on skill sets is certainly technical skills, communication skills, relationship-building skills. Sam, I’m going to kind of ask you to maybe synthesize this, not only the mindsets but also the skill sets, how you have done this so successfully. What are just some closing thoughts and comments that you might have for our listeners?

Samantha McElhaney: [00:47:27] Bottom line, when it’s coming to a relationship between myself and a client, with it being a partnership, just ask them what they’re looking for. Bottom line, you know, how do you want to be communicated with? I always tell people I’ve had a client in the past, they’re always on the road and they simply wanted a text message. Don’t bombard me with emails. Don’t call me. Just send me a text. And that’s how I communicate. And I always give that example because if I did anything else for that person, we would have never been able to communicate and we would never be able to work together. So if you just clearly ask, they’ll tell you what they want.

Bill McDermott: [00:48:10] Yeah, that’s a great point. Dan, same question, kind of how do you synthesize what we’ve talked about today in mindset and skill set and successful selling?

Dan Mahony: [00:48:21] You know, I think successful selling and relationship building is realizing that, you know, a lot of times we’re in a consultative – we’re consultative selling and we want to do value-based selling and realizing that how value-based selling has changed. As the salesperson, you are the value. You are the value that is coming to the client. It’s not necessarily your product; it’s your service. It’s your expertise. It’s your background. You are the value. So I think when salespeople know that and realize that and realize they got to continue to educate themselves to continue to increase their value.

Bill McDermott: [00:49:00] Yeah. Great points. Keith, kind of same question. How do you bring all this together in mindset and skill set and professional services?

Keith Costley: [00:49:10] You know, it’s an interesting challenge to have confidence that you have the technical skill to have the – to be humble and be curious and to be able to interact with people and not overwhelm them and really listen to them and then ultimately go down a path with the client that will give you an opportunity to provide a service to them. And hopefully, you’ve built some trust and some rapport along the way. And because without that trust and rapport, you might win some work, but you don’t build lasting relationships. You don’t get repeat business and things like that. So it’s a real challenge for professionals who don’t focus on sales all the time to kind of put all the pieces together, but that’s what we do. And this is how we keep the business going and growing.

Bill McDermott: [00:50:10] Yeah, yeah. Dan, there might be a listener who, something you said really resonated with them and wants to get in touch with you. What’s the best way for them to contact you, phone, email website?

Dan Mahony: [00:50:25] Yeah. Visit transcendentsales.com. We have a website. You know you could be -I could be reached at our business line, (404) 271-6767, or email, sales@transcendentsales.com.

Bill McDermott: [00:50:41] Great. Thanks for coming on the show today.

Dan Mahony: [00:50:43] Bill, thanks for having me.

Bill McDermott: [00:50:44] Keith, kind of same question. There are special people at Keck & Wood doing special things. There is a war for talent out there, but there might be an engineer who is really interested in what you had to say today and the great company that you’ve built and others before you have built. How did they get in touch with you and with Keck & Wood?

Keith Costley: [00:51:11] Sure. If you want to get directly in touch with me, I’d be happy to talk to anybody who’s interested in this topic or Keck & Wood, (678) 417-4001. That’s my landline, mobile line, text. You can reach me. But if you just want to learn information about Keck & Wood and see what we’re all about both from a professional side but also, you know, the human side of our business and how we interact with each other and the things we do in the communities that we work in to volunteer and whatnot, check out our website. It’s keckwood.com, K-E-C-K-W-O-O-D, dot com. Or check us out on LinkedIn. We do a good job of doing posts regularly, talking about our clients, our projects, and our culture. So if you want to learn about us, those are the best places to go.

Bill McDermott: [00:52:02] Great. Keith, thanks so much for sharing your experience and expertise in this topic.

Keith Costley: [00:52:07] Thank you, Bill.

Bill McDermott: [00:52:09] Sam, it’s so hard for business owners out there to have a relationship with a banker, especially with all the banking consolidation that goes on. But you do banking relationships well, and I can say that as having been in banking for three decades. So if what you’ve said today really has resonated with someone out there, whether they be a client or a fellow banker at another bank, what’s the best way for them to get in touch with you at Pinnacle Financial Partners?

Samantha McElhaney: [00:52:38] My phone number has not changed in 18 years, unlike my employer, so my phone number is (678) 524-7133. And our website is www dot P as in Paul, N as in Nancy, F as in Frank, P as in Paul, dot com. And you know, you’re at the right Pinnacle website when you see the Batman building on the website, the one in Nashville, because that’s where we are headquartered. But we have three locations here in Atlanta. Don’t mistake us for the Pinnacle that is here in Georgia, headquartered here in Georgia, but we are headquartered in Nashville with three locations in Atlanta.

Bill McDermott: [00:53:22] Gotcha.

Samantha McElhaney: [00:53:23] Thank you.

Bill McDermott: [00:53:23] Sam, thanks so much for coming on the show today. Great topic.

Bill McDermott: [00:53:28] So, I want to take a moment and talk to my business owner audience on if you’re selling your business or transitioning ownership, whether it be to co-workers or a potential strategic or financial buyer, we have to think like buyers. Every business owner has a big dream to sell their business, achieve financial freedom, and live life on their terms. But recent studies show that business owners have a concept of the value of their business but less than half of those have obtained an independent valuation. How do we know our value corresponds with the market value to a buyer?

Bill McDermott: [00:54:13] Selling our business is a lot like selling a home, except the business values are usually much higher. Everyone knows that kitchens and bathrooms sell houses. Location is also critical. Typically, to maximize the value, we don’t sell our house ourselves. We hire a professional agent. They come up with a listing price based on comparable sales and run a process. In the same way when selling our business, it’s important to think like a buyer. This means understanding what buyers are looking for in a business and how we can position our business to be attractive to potential buyers.

Bill McDermott: [00:54:51] Number one, identify your ideal borrower. Who is our ideal borrower and what are their goals or pain points? Knowing who we’re selling to, we can tailor our marketing materials to appeal to them.

Bill McDermott: [00:55:04] Second, prepare a business for sale. This means cleaning up our financials, updating our marketing materials, and getting our business in top shape. Many business owners don’t know where to start or what to do in these areas, so hiring a professional to help you is critical.

Bill McDermott: [00:55:21] Third, hire a business broker or an M&A advisor. It’s best to have an independent advisor to handle the marketing of our business, finding potential buyers and negotiating deal points.

Bill McDermott: [00:55:36] By following these steps, you can increase the chances of selling your business for a fair price and to a buyer who is a good fit for the company.

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The 3 Cs of Collaboration: From Combative to Collaborative with Teresa Harlow

June 19, 2023 by John Ray

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The 3 Cs of Collaboration: From Combative to Collaborative with Teresa Harlow (Inspiring Women, Episode 58)

On this edition of Inspiring Women, mediator, coach, and author Teresa Harlow joined host Betty Collins to talk about her work championing conflict resolution & collaboration among co-parents, co-workers, and clients. Teresa discussed the three C’s of collaboration, civility, communication and caring, how to communicate in a healthy way, and much more.

The host of Inspiring Women is Betty Collins, and the show is presented by Brady Ware & Company.

Betty’s Show Notes

Teresa Harlow, the author of the Amazon best-selling book, Combative to Collaborative: The Co-Parenting Code, gives inspiring advice and strategies on how to transform combative relationships into collaborative ones.

Drawing from her 30 years of experience in the entrepreneurial and corporate world, Teresa shares her three C’s of collaboration – civility, communication, and caring – and discusses how to overcome the challenges of negative social media communication and nurture a respectful, collaborative relationship with others. We explore the power of collaboration and how it can open new possibilities in our relationships.

Get ready to take away powerful advice to help transform your relationships and communication!

Hosted by Betty Collins, CPA, and Director at Brady Ware and Company. Betty also serves as the Committee Chair for Empowering Women, and Director of the Brady Ware Women Initiative. Each episode is presented by Brady Ware and Company, committed to empowering women to go their distance in the workplace and at home.

For more information, go to the Insights page at Brady Ware and Company.

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TRANSCRIPT

Betty Collins: [00:00:02] Has anyone ever inspired you to change your life that made you more fulfilled? Well, as a leader in your business and in your community, what are those questions that you ask yourself on a daily basis? It’s these questions that we explore on inspiring women. I am your host, Betty Collins, and I’m a certified public accountant, a business owner and a community leader who partners with others who want to achieve remarkable results for themselves and their organizations. I am here to help inspire you to a positive step forward for a better life. Well, today, we’re going to have a great discussion on toxic communication. Yay. Right. But it is something that’s so needed in our society today, of course. And we have Teresa Harlow with us. You’re going to really, really enjoy her. Everyone knows that toxic communications can destroy relationships. The teams, it can even sink your business. What are you doing to ensure that your team knows how to prevent or defuse hostility? Yay, or move from combative to collaborative when tensions flare? So whether Theresa is co-parenting, running a business or working with large corporations, she has been transforming the combative relationships into collaborative, collaborative relationships.

Betty Collins: [00:01:22] See if I can say that again. While achieving extraordinary results for over 30 years, I admire anyone who can write a book, and she has one called Combative To Collaborative The Co-parenting Code, and it’s stayed on Amazon’s bestseller list for over 17 months. And it’s endorsed by Gary Chapman, amazing author of The Five Love Languages, and Jack Canfield, co-author of Chicken Soup for the Soul. So, Theresa, welcome to our show today. I’m so glad that you’re here for my audience. I think they’re going to find this very, very needed. They’re going to find that anything that you can get helps and tips we want to do. And at the end, we want to make sure they know how to get your book, where to get your book and your contact information. Sure. So we’re going to just jump right in. But tell us just take 30 seconds. Tell us a little bit about you. What do you do for fun? You know, that kind of just 30 seconds, 45 seconds of a little about you.

Teresa Harlow: [00:02:19] Well, what do I do for fun? Well, winter is a little bit difficult for me because, well, I’m a boater. Okay?

Betty Collins: [00:02:26] So not a place to boat. Ohio is not a place to boat. Yes. Right.

Teresa Harlow: [00:02:29] Right. So in the summer, we do a lot of that and travel to the Tennessee region and also northern Michigan and do water skiing and wake surfing and wakeboarding. Very nice. And of course, we have three kids between us and they’re all grown. So we’re constantly jetting off to see someone or spending time watching my son and his band up north and oh, very nice, Cleveland. Okay, so we do a lot of that.

Betty Collins: [00:02:56] There’s nothing like saying grown children. There’s nothing like saying adult children with jobs. That is the best, right? Yeah. Although I’m not real.

Teresa Harlow: [00:03:05] Fond of the idea. My son is now 29 and holding, as I’ll say now for the rest of my life. Yeah.

Betty Collins: [00:03:11] There you go. I’m good with it. My son is 31 and 30. My daughter is 30, so I’m right where you are. So. But good boating is a blast. Mid Lake Michigan is beautiful. All that’s just gorgeous up there. So but we’re going to talk about the fun stuff of confrontation, not necessarily confrontation, but toxic. Right. And how do we become collaborative? Collaborative. So your professional background is really varied. How did you end up on your current journey? Let’s talk about that.

Teresa Harlow: [00:03:38] Well, I like to say that my professional journey is a maze. Not amazing necessarily, but a maze, because I like that, you know, I kind of come in and out of two things that are that I have a love hate relationship with both entrepreneurship, starting businesses as well as corporate America and being an employee with a larger company and and really, I love how as an entrepreneur, you get to be creative and, you know, create something from nothing, right? And that’s kind of beautiful. And you get to follow a passion that you have personally and turn it into something that helps others. But let’s face it, having a business is hard, right? And you are your own support system. You don’t have technical support, marketing support and all that. Of course you can hire those things out, but as a solopreneur, you have to to think about all that. And there are no perks. You know, paid vacations are are something that don’t come with the territory.

Betty Collins: [00:04:46] Right? You take the vacation, but when you’re not working, no one’s getting paid. Right, Right.

Teresa Harlow: [00:04:50] Right. And then, you know, in my corporate journey, I was in that environment for a good 35 years. And I would. Really do quite well leading large teams. But I would come to a point where I felt like I was limited either creatively or just in where I wanted to take my passions. And, you know, while I love the perks and the paid vacations that come with corporate America, it can be stifling in that sense. And so I, I decided in 2020, right in the middle of the pandemic, know everybody.

Betty Collins: [00:05:28] A lot of people did. Yeah.

Teresa Harlow: [00:05:30] To step away from corporate America after my what I call my third tour of duty because it really felt like I had achieved what I was going to accomplish there. I was really ready to move on. And. And. Just come to a better place and being able to fuel that passion and bring it all together, really. So, you know, the book is about co-parenting, but it deals with relationships and moving from combativeness with someone to collaborative behaviors. And I found I was also living this pattern in my professional journey, bringing people together, figuring out how to overcome interpersonal relationship obstacles and turn foes into fans. And so after so many people telling me that they felt that I had something to share, I decided to combine all of those creative talents, my passion for it, and what I learned both in my personal and professional life with relationships and pour it all into this business.

Betty Collins: [00:06:46] Yeah. Well, today’s environment is nothing but combative. It doesn’t seem to matter what you’re looking at, whether it’s your school boards or your schools or your community or, you know, it goes beyond politics even and in business, definitely. Right. And people just they’re not knowing how. It’s like we have forgotten, forgot how to be professional and positive. Right. Or just interactive. The interactions of today can be positive, yet we can still feel different. We can still be different. But we we’re missing that. Right. So what prevents people from interacting more positively, professionally and personally? What prevents that?

Teresa Harlow: [00:07:32] Well, I kind of package it as what I call the three C’s of collaboration, civility, communication and caring. Right. And when I talk about civility, I’m really talking about the basics, politeness, courtesy, maybe a little empathy, just really understanding that things are happening to people around you and you have an impact on that. With every interaction you have, even with the person you pass on the street and they always say, you know, smile can be contagious. Right? And so I think we’ve we’ve lost a little bit of that awareness of of the need for civility. And also, I feel like we’ve really with all the abundance that we have of communication methods, right? You’ve got email and text and social media and all these ways to interact with each other. We’re doing it worse. And there’s just really a decline in our communication skills because so many of those modes are are really one sided. You put it out there and then you wait for a response as opposed to having conversations. So it’s a lost art, having a conversation. Our kids grow up texting each other and on social media and these things and we, you know, adopt slang sorts of interactions and lose sight of really the protocols that that make up language that is comprehensive and and caring.

Teresa Harlow: [00:09:06] And I think even starting with our our education system, I remember my son was like in fifth grade and fifth, sixth, seventh. And I remember when I was in school, I was diagramming sentences and understanding the structure of the English language and how to put it together in ways that people would understand what I was saying and the way I intended to. And I really felt like they weren’t doing that. They weren’t correcting grammar, and I was like, What is going on? But, you know, I think that that education is one area, but just in, in how we interact with each other, we need to practice that more, right? So the third one being caring is really about that idea of empathy and treating people the way you would want to be treated. Right. And how we’ve lost sight of that, in favor of thinking about where we want to go, what we’re doing. And so I really would love to see empathy be re infused into our everyday interactions. You know, thinking about the words you say, the actions you take, how do those land on the other person and would you want that to happen to you? Yeah.

Betty Collins: [00:10:27] You know, I think when you talk about live conversations, we just don’t have and you’re going to say something, you’re going to act totally different when you are live. Right. And I think that is part of the art of conversation has gone away because it is we’re going to do it and we’re going to wait for a response. And there’s no skin in the game because you’re not looking at that person. Yeah. You know.

Teresa Harlow: [00:10:46] Facing.

Betty Collins: [00:10:47] Someone, right. Right. Today I had a very interesting interaction. I had ordered stuff from Neiman Marcus or Marcus. Neiman Marcus. There we go. There we go. And I had one of the packages come. Didn’t really pay attention to that, the fact that I hadn’t gotten the other one. And so a woman from probably a half a mile to a mile away calls me and I see the number and I’m like, I don’t know who this is, should I pick up? But I’m trying to be more about someone’s reaching out to me, I’m going to pick up. So I pick up and she said, I’m so-and-so from Blacklick and I think I have your package. I said, Oh. And I said, She goes, Yeah. I think the driver probably was having a bad day and we just need to get the right packages. Do you by chance have my package? I said, I don’t. She goes, okay, well you’ll see another package on your on your doorstep today. Have a great day. And it was just refreshing. Yeah, it was just refreshing. It just that’s what we need to get back to. Even a neighbor call. I mean, I don’t know how she got my number even, except it must have been on the package. I don’t know. But it was. It was just as you’re talking about, having conversations, she just didn’t get mad at the FedEx guy. She just didn’t come and keep it. She didn’t just throw it. She reached out. Was intentional about having a positive conversation. She could have been a really negative. Right.

Teresa Harlow: [00:12:05] Well, and, you know, I, I think that even those I’ll say casual interactions we have can be really changing to someone’s day. Like if you have to call tech support or customer service because maybe you have a problem with Neiman Marcus or something. You know, if I’m feeling really reactive, I will tell someone if I’ve been going rounds with someone with a company for a while and then I have to call again, maybe I might give them fair warning. Look, I’m a little on edge about this so that if I do come across a little harsh that they realize it’s not directed to them. But, you know, just remembering that there’s someone on the receiving end of what you’re doing.

Betty Collins: [00:12:51] Do you think and and I’m digressing a little bit, but it kind of dawned on me when you said this. So you’re talking about people put it out on social media of all kinds, whether it’s I mean, doesn’t matter if it’s LinkedIn or Facebook or Instagram, TikTok, you name it, there’s all those venues, emails. I think we’re just used to seeing the bad behavior. We’re we’re seeing the negativity that we don’t even know maybe that we’re being negative when we put it out there because that’s just what we’ve gotten used to.

Teresa Harlow: [00:13:22] Yeah, there’s actually some level of acceptance that I think is damaging.

Betty Collins: [00:13:26] Yeah, Yeah, for sure. Well, you know, we’ve talked about how do we what prevents people from interacting a lot of is just they’re not interacting. Right? We’re living in kind of a negative world. What can we do to overcome these obstacles?

Teresa Harlow: [00:13:41] Well, I have a whole long list that I call Lessons for Mom. And it’s not me. Not me, the mom. They come from my mom. They come from your mom. They come from all of our moms or other caregivers that raised us. And these are basic things. I’m not I’m not inventing anything new here. I’m reminding people of basic principles. We were taught when we were very young, things like, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything, right? And you need to practice to get better at something. So if you have a difficult relationship with someone, don’t shy away from it. That may be what you want to do, but it’s not going to improve if you don’t practice interacting with that person to learn more about them. Right. And understand what motivates them, what triggers them, and how you can overcome those things. And then above all, treating others the way you want to be treated. The golden rule is, is that and it’s it’s interesting because the more I say it, maybe it’s because it’s in my head so much. I see more and more authors and speakers and and others talking about that leaders. And I’m glad that I’m hearing it more and I just hope it sinks in.

Betty Collins: [00:15:06] Well, I think we need we on the positive side on collaboration. We need to speak louder for those who are negative and on the combative side. And if we speak louder, it’ll change and turn the course. My mother always used to say this, and we still say this to this day. She’s 86. She says False cheer is better than real crabbiness And she had that on her bulletin board for I can’t remember when it wasn’t there. Right. And she would Sunday mornings, you know, there were eight of us and getting up and going to church was in one bathroom. And you and you didn’t. I mean, you dressed up, right. Everybody went. And my mom. The false cheer is better than real. Crabbiness. We’re going to church. Everyone getting in the van. Get your smiles on. And you just that was just how you you thought whether you wanted to smile or not, whether you were happy or not. Sometimes that false cheer is better than the crappiness. Let’s go.

Teresa Harlow: [00:16:00] Well, it starts there, right? And, you know, there is something to be said for faking it until you make it right?

Betty Collins: [00:16:08] Right. I’m not saying you live there. You got to deal with problems. Absolutely. But in the basics, everyday routines, right? Yeah. So are there things we do unwittingly that triggers others to respond negatively to us? What do we do to set those triggers?

Teresa Harlow: [00:16:25] Well, so whether it’s in business, I was a people manager. Yeah, you’re a people manager or in your personal life where you’re coming to your spouse or your children or whomever in your family. When we want something, we come at them. If we’re if we’re more of a managerial sort, we may say, Hey, I need you to do this or you need to stop doing this. And we start there rather than setting up the conversation so that the other person is prepared to receive us and and understands that we’re not a threat to them. So I like to suggest that people start by remembering one, that everyone brings something to the table, and you can acknowledge that to start your conversation, I mentioned my son’s in a band and he started his first band when he was in fifth grade. Okay? And I was I was in bands before too. And so I sat the boys down and I told him, I said, There’s two things you guys all need to remember to do. One, leave your ego at the door. And that’s a hard thing to do when you’re dealing with something artistic because it is very personal, right? And two, remember, everyone brings something to the table and hopefully it’s different than what you bring to the table so that you you complement each other.

Teresa Harlow: [00:17:55] So don’t get upset because someone else doesn’t do exactly what you do. Look to what it is they do contribute and acknowledge that. So setting up a conversation that way by a simple acknowledgement, Hey, thank you for meeting with me today. Maybe all you can come up with if you’re really in conflict with someone, but it’s a start that that sets the tone. And then as the conversation progresses, remembering to I think we we tend to forget to listen. Yeah, we’re so caught up in thinking about what we’re going to say in response. We prepare our case, you know, that we actually don’t stop and hear what they’re saying, right? And we can then further acknowledge, Hey, I heard you. Now, that doesn’t mean you agree with them just because you acknowledge you heard them, it just lets them know that you’re listening. Right?

Betty Collins: [00:18:54] Right. You know, you’ll find this hard to believe, but I am a talker, so most people don’t think I listen. But a lot of times I really I’m already thinking something else in my mind. Why they’re finishing. Oh, yeah, a lot of people do. It’s a skill that we need to get back to the art of if we want to become more collaborative, right? Yeah, for sure. And I know when you talked about I’ve read a book and I’m going to have her on my podcast, She was at the Women’s Leadership Conference for Brady where last year and she has five core components to, to getting along with people. And one of them is the worst thing is not the only thing. Yeah, it’s not the only thing about that person. Right. You know, or about the situation. You have to sometimes just get pat, sometimes it’s hard to get past it. It depends on what it is. I’m not saying you just go, Oh, that’s just their worst characteristic, let it go. But it is helped me in approaching people because there’s other things than that.

Teresa Harlow: [00:19:51] Well, it can give you perspective, right? Yeah. Because then you’re not just focused on that that conflict. Because you know what I say when it comes to conflict and overcoming it is if you want to resolve conflict, then don’t focus on the conflict. Right? Focused on resolving it. So if you’re constantly thinking about what you don’t like about someone, then that’s where you’re going to live, right?

Betty Collins: [00:20:14] I had someone say to me once, I was telling them, well, under these circumstances and they said, Stop right there. Why are you under the circumstance, why are you not over and ahead of Interesting. Yeah, it was interesting. It made me kind of stop and go, oh, maybe, maybe. But anyways, but triggers are something in our society today that just are real. And you’ve got to be so aware when you have triggered somebody so you don’t do it again because or talk to them about their triggering because you have them as well. Yeah. So you know, when when someone is unloading. That negative energy on you, right? Which people do. What are strategies that you’ve seen in your 35 years and in your business that you have today? What have you seen that works to help the recipient of the combative behavior?

Teresa Harlow: [00:21:02] Yeah. Well, and I’ll start by saying I learned some of these lessons the hard way in my earlier career. I was very reactive. You know, the same mom that told me, if you don’t have anything nice to say, told me to speak my mind, right? So I was like trying to come to terms with those two. Took me a while, but, you know, understanding that you. You don’t have to react. You have a choice. No one can actually make you angry. Novel concept. You have a choice. And so remembering that there is a cost to reacting, there is a consequence that lives beyond that moment. And by all means, if you are communicating in a way that is documented, whether it’s email or text or social media or something that’s memorialized, even a voice message that’s saved. Yeah, don’t memorialize bad behavior. I mean, because then it absolutely lives beyond the moment. And while we all can get caught up and say things we regret, if you do that in the context of something that is documented, then it can be turned around and used as a weapon well beyond what you intended to convey in that moment. Right. And so we have to be mindful of that. And if necessary, pause. Ask the person, can we take this up later? You know, make some excuse for why you can’t handle it right now or literally bite your tongue or do whatever you need to do to take that pause. Right.

Betty Collins: [00:22:47] Well, it is it’s a hard that’s a hard on both ends to even maybe you are being negative and combative and then you catch yourself. Right. And you can’t go maybe go back. You can’t go back. You can’t, can you? Can You sure have to go. You don’t have to go. Well, I’ve already done it. Too bad. So sad, you know.

Teresa Harlow: [00:23:04] No, you can you can say, you know what? I’m going down the wrong path here. Let me back up. And I’ve done that with with my staff. I’ve done that with my managers. Right. And just said, I think I’ve I’ve gotten off track here. Let me try to say this differently.

Betty Collins: [00:23:18] It can be it can be the little things. I mean, last week I had this meltdown and I run our office. And so I put out this email with really shouldn’t have done this, put this email to all of Columbus. Right. And because people had left dishes in the sink again in the kitchen. So I went, I had this whole thing of do not in caps, you know, blah, blah, blah, underline, highlight, just ridiculous really, at the end of the day. And then two minutes later my admin team comes running in my office. We got it. So it was really simple. We just put all the hardware in a box and put paper aware only and didn’t make a big thing. We have a lot going on right now. We don’t need to talk about whose cup is in the sink. Yeah, right. And why I just went off like that was. It just looks ridiculous on my part, you know? And it was email. It’s already there. I’m sure it was kind of a laughable moment for people. But it’s a simple thing like that, though, that we just do because it triggered me that once again, we have stuff in the sink and it drives me crazy.

Teresa Harlow: [00:24:18] You know, I have a I have a solution for that little let me hear it reactive kitchen because, you know. Well, no. So in my last role in financial services, I had really large teams and, you know, communicating with potentially hundreds of people in any given email. And, you know, I spend lots of time revising, revising, revising emails. But if someone triggered me, even if it was just to one person back to them and I felt triggered, I would write it exactly what I wanted to say and put my name at the top in the to nobody else’s so that if I accidentally hit send, it was only coming to me. And if I was feeling particularly triggered by something, I would write that email like that, get it off my chest, send it to myself, then read it and start to realize, okay, that whole concept of how are my words going to be received on the other end? If I read them, how do I feel as a result of reading them? And then I can start to calm myself down and be more rational and whatever I put out there. So next time, send that to yourself would not be a bad idea.

Betty Collins: [00:25:33] My admin team responded immediately because they just know me, right? But I apologize to them the next day because I figured probably that they would respond and take care of it instead. I could have just asked them, but I promised him I’d stay away from the sink. That’s my solution at this point, because right now. I just need to stay out of sight. Out of mind. Right. Just stay away from the sink. So. But, you know, let’s talk a little bit about your book. You wrote a really good book and the title. When I first saw it, I thought, oh, this is for people going through divorce. But let’s talk about why you wrote the book and that it’s out there and where can people find it and what what would be who would this book apply to besides everyone?

Teresa Harlow: [00:26:12] Everyone, Right. Well, I mean, it is and isn’t about divorce. It’s really more about the relationship with two parents that are continuing to raise children after divorce.

Betty Collins: [00:26:26] They have a.

Teresa Harlow: [00:26:26] Commonality. Yeah. And I find that people are people, whether it’s your co-parenting relationship or your business colleagues or clients or suppliers that the same basic premises hold true, and how people want you to respect them and listen to them and acknowledge what they bring to the table. Right. And with that, we had when I say we, my son’s father and I had heard many times as we raised him from the time he was six on up, how they wished their parent had done that for them after they divorced or they wished that they had were doing this with their ex spouse. And I thought, well, obviously we figured something out because people compliment us. Why not put this information out there so that it could benefit others? And while the book in its current volume, the co-parenting code, is focused on the co parent relationship, the the ideas of how to overcome conflict and move to more collaborative behavior apply. And I really delved into a lot of conflicts that, frankly, my son’s father and I did not face, but that maybe I came upon as a step parent or in other roles in my excuse me, in my life to move a conversation forward. And some of those took years. And I’ve had some relationships in my life that have waxed and waned.

Teresa Harlow: [00:28:13] And, you know, they go from good to bad. But anyway, the book serves to help people understand the behaviors they they may be demonstrating that will trigger another person unwittingly. They may not realize they’re doing that to also cover if you’re on the receiving end, because I frankly started off by saying in the book, don’t do this. Don’t do that, you’re doing this. And then one of my friends read an early manuscript and he had went through the whole journey himself as a co-parent. He said, This is great, but my ex wouldn’t have read this book. I’d have been the one reading it. What are you doing for me? So I went back and infused in the book, added to it. Here’s what you can do if you’re on the receiving end of this to redirect the conversation, to avoid those triggers and to take the interactions back to a more productive place. So I go through the do’s and don’ts of both sides of that so that people can feel they get something out of it no matter what part of the journey they’re on, whether it’s something they’re going through now, they’re separating, whether they’ve been divorced for years or if they have, you know, maybe re coupled. And the whole step parenting thing is a whole other book. Yeah. Yes.

Betty Collins: [00:29:45] So, Well, I appreciate you being you know, today’s world is more combative than it is collaborative for sure. And we need to figure out how to switch that and turn that. Yeah, you can get the book on Amazon. This is Teresa Harlow. H a r l o w. And where can people are you on Twitter? Are you where’s all your media? You’re everywhere.

Teresa Harlow: [00:30:08] Yeah my my website is Teresa harlow.com. I like to keep it simple. If you misspell it I think I own several versions of that. Okay. And on all the social media mostly under Teresa Harlow one, two, three except for on LinkedIn and and of course the books on Amazon.

Betty Collins: [00:30:25] They’ll find you to my audience I would tell you toxic communication, destroying relationships being on the negative side, being the person, putting people on negative side, etcetera. We need to be more collaborative, not combative. And so today it takes courage to do that. It takes courage to choose to be cooperative versus combative. So I encourage you to read the book. I encourage you to think through. I encourage you to look in the mirror and say, Is this something I need to do? Thank you for joining us today. We sure appreciate it. Thank you.

Teresa Harlow: [00:30:56] Thanks for having me.

Betty Collins: [00:30:58] As your career advances continue, your financial opportunities will continue to grow. Be prepared. Visit broadwayworld.com Backslash Resources to find Everything about inspiring women. This episode, plus an outline of Brady wearing company accounting services can be found in the episode show notes.

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Shasta-Broadus-Phoenix-Business-RadioShasta Broadus is a personal and professional business development executive with the heart for small businesses and entrepreneurs.

She has a BS in Psychology, Masters course work in organizational leadership and a background in finance.

Connect with Shasta on LinkedIn and Facebook.

Dr. Nancys Integrative Medicine

Dr-Nancy-Gaines-Dillard-Phoenix-Business-RadioDr. Nancy Gaines-Dillard, DNP-BC Doctorate prepared, Board Certified Family Medicine Integrative Healthcare Practitioner with over 26 years of varied experience in Family, Emergency, and Acute Care Medicine at teaching hospitals, Level I Trauma Centers and Tertiary facilities.

She has taught at Thomas Jefferson University, Harcum College and various other educational institutions. She is a business owner, Inventor, Innovator, Philanthropist, Entrepreneur and Talk show host who owns NGC Network LLC, a media broadcast network.

Dr. Nancy’s Integrative Medicine has a unique perspective on healthcare modalities in that she is creative and progressive in her healthcare and education practice. She has two practice sites in the greater Phoenix metropolitan area with satellite offices and affiliate providers throughout the valley.

She provides services such as Telemedicine (multiple states), Women’s Health/Wellness, IV vitamin drip therapy, Stem Cell Therapy, Weight-Loss, Aesthetics, and Holistic and Traditional Medical Office Visits. She has her own product line “NG Cares” customized wellness solutions that address overall health and wellness. She offers individual and family healthcare plans. Dr. Nancy believes in living your best life now.

Her philosophy is such that she empowers her patient population by personalizing care and relationship building that improves health outcomes. She is a pioneer in her field and is dedicated to heal and educate the world, one person at a time.

Connect with Dr. Nancy on LinkedIn.

Keys Community Inc. was founded in 2013 with a goal to open doors for opportunity to their community. Just seven years later Keys Community opened their first behavioral health clinic in Phoenix, Arizona. Keys-Community-logo

Their mission is to improve access to high quality, mental and behavioral health services for all of Arizona’s youth, adults and families. They are building a healthy community by providing therapeutic services that preserve the overall family structure for individuals struggling with behavioral health and mental health challenges.

Keys Community offers a variety of services such as clinical services, life skills development, mentoring and community events. Their clinical services are geared towards trauma, child & adolescents behaviors, faith-based, LGBTQIA+ , individual, family & couples therapy and art, animal & gardening therapy.

Family services focus on family preservation, family respite and parenting classes. Keys help adults with career readiness, case management, community engagement, health & wellness, peer support and mentoring. They have a youth program called Keys Kids which provide after-school program, tutoring, life skills development, mentoring, Y.E.S -Youth Eliminating Stress respite and their skills geared summer program.

Mentoring is one of their main components when services members/clients. While mentoring they’re teaching how to model healthy coping skills, they’re providing substance recovery support and how to maintain positive relationship/interaction. Keys Community outlines the importance of health & wellness, how to create a nutritious meal plan and living a balanced physical, mental and spiritual lifestyle.

Kyanti-Palmer-Phoenix-Business-RadioKyanti Palmer has a true devotion to children which drives her daily in her chosen profession of Behavioral Health, Kyanti is currently the CEO of Keys Community Inc., a behavioral health clinic in Phoenix, Arizona since 2020.

Her passion for behavioral health began eleven years ago when she was employed as a behavioral health tech. In working in the industry firsthand, she knew early on that she wanted to start her own behavioral clinic with a focus on family reunification. elite-soiree

Kyanti realized the need for cultural awareness, financial wisdom, health and wellness in the community as she became more involved with families of the children she coached and mentored. She started Keys Community Foundation, Inc. a non-profit organization with a mission to support the community in developing better families by offering a variety of educational and developmental forums in mental health, wellness, daily life skills and parenting.

In addition, the non-profit provides a temporary housing program and her ultimate goal is to open a chain of community centers that supports her vision for family development.

Kyanti has a degree in Theology which enables her to mentor, counsel and lead with a compassionate heart without bias intentions. Kyanti’s work ethic is commendable and is fueled by her desire to help others. She leads by example in an outgoing, energetic, fun way.

If you ever want to see a true visionary, take time to get to know Kyanti Palmer; she truly is a great person to know and very resourceful.

Connect with Kyanti on LinkedIn and follow Keys Community on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

Healing Wings Ministries & Publishing is a multi-faceted ministry endeavoring to transform lives by empowering the brokenhearted and fostering healing, wholeness, and freedom through the unconditional love of Christ. We aspire to inspire by being Vessels of Light—shining light into the dark world. VOL-Front-Cover

Healing Wings is publishing its first book, Vessel Of Light, a narrative biography from a compilation of journals based on Vaddess’ extraordinary life encounters and her quest for healing. Vaddess leaves nothing to imagine as she recounts complex traumas she bravely faced and overcame.

She shares her amazing stories in hopes of encouraging people to take inventory of their own lives, motivating each one to D.A.S.H. to their destiny, and Display Acts of Selfless Humanity by being a Vessel Of Light.

VaddessVaddess (like Goddess) has been motivating, inspiring, and empowering others for decades. Majoring in Engineering, she holds minors in Interior Design and Counseling. She worked closely with the Probation and Parole Office, counseling those sent to her by court order, and taught A.A. and N.A. classes for the probationers and parolees.

She is no stranger to television appearances and hosted a radio talk show. Through the years, she has formed various support groups and has traveled the country for motivational speaking engagements. In addition, she has coordinated and hosted leadership/inner healing conferences and women’s empowerment groups.

The hope of Vaddess is that her inspirational stories will reveal a new perspective on daily life, humanity, and future vision. She gives people the notion to partake in the voyage to D.A.S.H. to destiny by being a Vessel Of Light.

Vaddess lives in Phoenix, AZ, with her husband, Daveed, their goddaughter, Annie, her former husband, Harley, and their nine fur and feather babies. She hosts “SheRose High Tea Parties,” conferences, seminars, and speaking engagements wherever opportunities are open.

Connect with Vaddess on LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

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LIVE from SOAHR 2022: Akilah Charlemagne, Cox Communications and SHRM-Atlanta

August 3, 2022 by John Ray

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Akilah Charlemagne, HR Business Partner Director at Cox Communications and President of SHRM-Atlanta, chatted with host John Ray LIVE during the SOAHR 2022 conference for SHRM-Atlanta. She shared that she is celebrating her third anniversary with Cox and talked about her passion for career development and leadership coaching, her career path, her decision to invest in SHRM-Atlanta and her certification, the connections she has cultivated, her tenure as president, and much more.

This show was originally broadcast live from SOAHR 2022, the annual conference of SHRM-Atlanta, held at the Cobb Galleria Centre in Atlanta, Georgia on July 27th and 28th, 2022.

North Fulton Business Radio is broadcast from the North Fulton studio of Business RadioX® inside Renasant Bank in Alpharetta.

Akilah Charlemagne, SHRM-SCP, SPHR, HCS, FPC, President, SHRM-Atlanta

Akilah Charlemagne, SHRM-SCP, SPHR, HCS, FPC, President, SHRM-Atlanta

Akilah Charlemagne is an influential Human Resources Business Partner and Relationship Builder with 22 years of experience working with Technology, Higher Education, Healthcare and Non-Profit organizations. Akilah’s passion and purpose is to create remarkable experiences where professionals feel safe, energized, and empowered to take risks and propel their careers!

Akilah founded Career Lemonade in 2019, where she partners with professionals and entrepreneurs who are looking to make a shift while increasing their confidence and supporting them in making better Career & Business decisions.

She earned her BA in International Relations with a minor in Spanish from Mount Holyoke College. Akilah serves as the President for SHRM-Atlanta and is the Co-Founder of ATL HR CREW.

Akilah was born in St. Vincent & the Grenadines, grew up in New York City, and has lived in Atlanta (off and on) since 2001. Her LIFE and WORK principles include “Be Positive. . .Be Authentic. . .Be Resourceful. . .Be BOLD and Pay it Forward!”

Website | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram

SHRM-Atlanta

SHRM-Atlanta is one of the largest chapters of SHRM and shares its purpose of elevating the HR profession. As a leader in the Atlanta metro business community, SHRM-Atlanta strives to be the premier resource for those working in and supporting the human resource function. SHRM-Atlanta’s predominant goal is to be the voice of HR in metro Atlanta and be the first contact for those seeking information and solutions.

This will be achieved through the growth and diversity of members, education, and delivery of content, and by strengthening partnerships with organizations that share its vision.

Website | LinkedIn | Facebook | Instagram 

Questions and Topics in this Interview:

  • Akilah’s work at Cox
  • Her HR Journey
  • Her experience with SHRM-Atlanta
  • SOAHR 2022

North Fulton Business Radio is hosted by John Ray and broadcast and produced from the North Fulton studio of Business RadioX® inside Renasant Bank in Alpharetta. You can find the full archive of shows by following this link. The show is available on all the major podcast apps, including Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google, Amazon, iHeart Radio, Stitcher, TuneIn, and others.

RenasantBank

 

Renasant Bank has humble roots, starting in 1904 as a $100,000 bank in a Lee County, Mississippi, bakery. Since then, Renasant has grown to become one of the Southeast’s strongest financial institutions with over $13 billion in assets and more than 190 banking, lending, wealth management and financial services offices in Mississippi, Alabama, Tennessee, Georgia and Florida. All of Renasant’s success stems from each of their banker’s commitment to investing in their communities as a way of better understanding the people they serve. At Renasant Bank, they understand you because they work and live alongside you every day.

 

Special thanks to A&S Culinary Concepts for their support of this edition of North Fulton Business Radio. A&S Culinary Concepts, based in Johns Creek, is an award-winning culinary studio, celebrated for corporate catering, corporate team building, Big Green Egg Boot Camps, and private group events. They also provide oven-ready, cooked-from-scratch meals to go they call “Let Us Cook for You.” To see their menus and events, go to their website or call 678-336-9196.

Tagged With: Akilah Charlemagne, collaboration, Cox Communications, HR, networking, North Fulton Business Radio, renasant bank, SHRM Atlanta

E72 Understanding Design Thinking with Bruce Gay

February 9, 2021 by Karen

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Are you familiar with Design Thinking? Are you utilizing Design Thinking to run your projects? In this episode we chat with Bruce Gay, Founder of Astrevo to understand the fundamentals and benefits of Design Thinking as well as touching on several other topics.

Bruce is a leader in the PM Industry and is an active community builder. He is a PMI Volunteer with PMI Pittsburgh, leads a Healthcare PMO, teaches part time at Norwich University and started his own firm, Astrevo. PMI-Pittsburgh-logo

In our discussion Bruce shares that Design Thinking allows groups of people to take time and look at their customers needs to deeply understand a problem and to start to brainstorm and down select solutions to solve those problems. The benefit to using Design Thinking is you get closer to your customer’s needs and pain points to help you identify defects earlier in the process which is less expensive than defects found later in the process.

We also hear Bruce’s perspective on trends in the industry and a few of his favorite books he recently read. We also learn about Bruce’s Project Management Insights monthly list of updates and insights within our industry.

To subscribe to Bruce’s Project Management Insights visit www.brucegay.com/signup.
To learn more about Astrevo visit www.astrevo.com
To connect with Bruce on LinkedIn visit – https://www.linkedin.com/in/brucegay/

​Thanks to our sponsor THE PMO SQUAD. Visit www.thepmosquad.com to learn to Empower People to Deliver Results and assist your PMO as you evolve in the new post-COVID business world.

Check out all prior episodes and upcoming guests by visiting www.projectmanagementofficehours.com.

UPMC Enterprises is the commercialization arm of UPMC, a Pittsburgh-based health care provider and insurer. As a healthcare innovation lab, UPMC Enterprises invests in two core areas: translational science (which conducts laboratory-to-human research, applying research to human subjects) and technology solutions to empower both medical professionals and patients. Since 2018, UPMC Enterprises has launched 5 companies, supported 30 internal research projects, and invested in a variety of healthcare-related companies.

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Astrevo was formed out of a desire to share knowledge of practical problem-solving approaches that managers can deploy with their teams to better understand customer needs and achieve success. Astrevo provides training, coaching, and consultation services to help teams focus on what is important: less time managing projects, more time focusing on outcomes and customers.

What makes Astrevo unique? Its 3 key principles:

(1) Experiential Learning – Embracing a growth mindset supported in hands-on learning.
(2) Creativity – Tackling problems from different perspectives and with new techniques.
(3) Collaboration – Working with others to solve hard problems.

BruceGayheadshotsquareBruce Gay, PMP, helps individuals improve their project management skills, become better leaders, and achieve professional greatness. He has over two-and-a-half decades worth of experience managing large, complex programs and customer relationship across multiple industries. In his current role, Bruce manages a PMO and is responsible for operational and delivery excellence for a 100+ person R&D organization comprised of software engineers, product managers, machine learning and NLP scientists, security experts, and cloud engineers. For the past 15 years, Bruce managed product teams that incorporated UX Design and Design Thinking methodologies into their product development processes.

Bruce’s public speaking experience includes presenting at both regional and international professional conferences such as PMI Global Conference (Chicago, Los Angeles, and Philadelphia) and PMI EMEA Congress in Dublin, Ireland and LearnFest Caribbean in Jamaica. Bruce is an adjunct professor for Norwich University (Northfield, VT) teaching courses in a Project Management certificate program. Bruce creates and delivers educational courses and workshops that help students grow as leaders. Bruce received a Master’s in International Affairs from The George Washington University and has been a certified Project Management Professional (PMP) since 2005.

Currently, Bruce lives in Pittsburgh, PA with his wife, two daughters, and his dog. Bruce is an active volunteer with the PMI Pittsburgh chapter and is their Director of Corporate Sponsorship. Bruce shares his experiences and ideas around Design Thinking and project management on twitter: @brucegay and on his website: www.brucegay.com.

ABOUT PROJECT MANAGEMENT OFFICE HOURS SERIES

Project Management Office Hours is intended to provide Project Management professionals a place to drop in and discuss Success Stories, Best Practices, and Lessons Learned.  Project Management Consultant Joy Gumz has shared with us, “Operations keep the lights on, strategy provides the light at the end of the tunnel, but project management is the train engine that moves the organization forward.”

Each of us has a unique story to tell, but collectively we share a message that organizations who embrace Project Management Best Practices perform better than those which don’t.  Organizations which align Projects to Strategy perform better.  Organizations with Engage Executive Sponsors deliver better results.  Organizations which measure Project Management performance outperform those which don’t.

During our Project Management Office Hours, we hear directly from Industry leaders how to make an impact in our profession. How we, collectively, will Advance Project Management Best Practices, One Listener at a time! 

ABOUT YOUR HOST

Joe Pusz started THE PMO SQUAD to bring real world PMO Leadership experience to the consulting space and to advocate for Project Management through his blog PMOJOE.com. The old saying is “Do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life.” Following this mindset Joe left Corporate America in 2013 to start THE PMO SQUAD and work with fellow Natural Born Project Managers to advance Project Management Best Practices.

ABOUT OUR SPONSOR

THE PMO SQUAD focuses exclusively on PMO and Project Management consulting. Corporate America is full of Accidental Project Managers running projects who haven’t been trained to be PMs. To help solve this problem THE PMO SQUAD is on the Leading Edge with PMO As a Service. PMO As a Service allows our clients to focus on their respective core competencies while THE PMO SQUAD delivers Project Management expertise. Contact Joe at 678-591-7868. Follow The PMO Squad on LinkedIn, Twitter and Facebook.

Where do PMO Leaders go for Information, Learning, Networking and Services? The PMO Leader community has “Everything You Need to Become a Great PMO Leader”. One PMO World, One Community! Learn more about The PMO Leader – www.thepmoleader.com

Tagged With: Agile, change management, collaboration, design thinking, Healthcare, Innovation, IT, Leadership, PMI, PMO, PMP, portfolio management, Program Management, project management, radiology workflow, software, training, UX design

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