Show Transcript

Intro: [00:00:05] Live from the Business RadioX Studio inside Renasant Bank, the bank that specializes in understanding you, it’s time for North Fulton Business Radio.

John Ray: [00:00:20] And hello again, everyone. Welcome to yet another edition of North Fulton Business Radio. I’m John Ray, and we are still virtual. No, we’re not back in our studio inside Renasant Bank at the moment, but we hope that will come sometime soon. But in the meantime, folks, we’ll be in touch on that. And also, stay in touch with your folks at Renasant. They’ve done a great job helping small businesses through this environment. And if you’re in need of a better experience for your small business with your bank, check them out. Go see your Renasant banker at the branch. You’ll need to make an appointment. They will see you inside the branch, but you do need to make an appointment. So, give them a call or go to the website, renasantbank.com. Renasant Bank, Understanding you. Member FDIC.

John Ray: [00:01:16] And now, we want to turn to an old friend, Dr. Dionne Poulton. And Dr. Dionne Poulton used to be around this area, but she, like, bugged out on us, right?

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:01:32] I still have my home. I still have my home in Gwinnett.

John Ray: [00:01:32] Okay, okay. Well, that gives me hope, right? Though, seriously, you’re up to some good things in New England. You’re now the Chief Diversity Officer at Care New England, right?

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:01:47] That’s right.

John Ray: [00:01:48] Yeah. So, I’ll let you introduce yourself. For those that don’t know, you give a little overview of the world of Dr. Dionne Poulton.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:02:01] Well, once again, good to be with you, John. It’s been a long time. And I’m always great to be with you, my friend.

John Ray: [00:02:06] Yeah.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:02:06] So, what should I say? I started off as a high school teacher. I taught for about six years and that morphed into teaching at the university level. And I came into diversity just kind of just by chance. I kind of fell into it. Long story short, I was teaching a grade nine boys class and discovered that they were pretty successful in my class and not in others, and not because I lowered the standards but because I realized there was something happening in that transaction. There was something that was … I didn’t know what it was, and that led me to just do some research.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:02:38] So, I did my master’s degree in San Francisco looking at the multicultural implications of education and how teacher comfort levels and with respect to race as well. And then, that led me to my PhD at the University of Georgia. And I looked at the unconscious biases of educators, not just in K through 12 but educators in all different industries from entertainment to law and just to see if there was – what’s the word – any consistency or there’s any common experience amongst all the educators. And it was determined – surprise – that everybody has biases. And that’s regardless of age, race, profession. We all have them. And so, that’s what I did my research.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:03:27] And then, after that, I started my own business. And that’s how I ended meeting you and Sammond. And actually, Mike Sammond, to give a little plug here, he’s the one that interviewed me the first time with RadioX and then said, “Hey, you want to try having a show?” And so, I tried that and I loved it. And so, I’ve actually been doing it. For now, this the fourth year, which is crazy, but anyway. But  I credit both you and Mike. And I miss you guys.

John Ray: [00:03:58] Well, we miss you, but we can connect with you, as you said, through your podcast. So, it’s The Dr. Dionne Show. And you’ve kind of re-engineered or re-energized – that’s the word I’m trying to get to – here lately and put out some more episodes. So, congratulations on that.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:04:24] Thank you so much.

John Ray: [00:04:25] Yeah.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:04:26] Thanks, John.

John Ray: [00:04:26] Yeah. And I think part of what you have done in that show, it really kind of lights the trail for those that don’t know how to respond to all they see right now, and that is to ask questions and listen.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:04:45] Yes. That very simple yet rare art of asking question, waiting for an answer and listening. Absolutely. And that’s one thing that you … Especially in diversity, that’s something that you have to do in order to get it right.

John Ray: [00:05:01] So, people are gonna think I’m like Dr. Dionne’s PR person, but I want to push your book too. So, I’m pushing your podcast but, also, you’ve got a new book coming out, and we won’t get into that yet. But you wrote a book a few years ago called It’s Not Always Racist … But Sometimes It Is, which I highly recommend to people if they have not read the book. And one of the things that you talk about in that book is the difference between racism and bias. Why don’t you unpack that?

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:05:38] Sure. And thanks for that. And I did that back in 2014, actually. And I wrote that book after the senseless killing of Trayvon Martin. And I was frustrated looking at the news, and people talking about the incident, and trivializing whether it was racist or whether it was not. And I realize there need to be some clarity in terms of terminology. And that was just three years after I got my doctorate at UJA in the same area. So, nonetheless, I wrote the book.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:06:11] So, racism put simply through my research, you can think of an equation. It’s called racism equals prejudice plus power. So, it’s prejudice plus power; meaning, that person who has the prejudice has to have the ability to stop somebody else, whether physically, emotionally, socially to achieve their ideals. On the other hand, bias is just that. It’s just bias. It’s a prejudgment. And everybody has that. All of us have it, regardless of who we are as I stated. And it’s a natural brain function, so to speak. The brain naturally makes sense of the world by categorizing and compartmentalizing. So, it’s a natural function. But where we get into trouble is when we start to assign value or devalue people based upon our misperceptions and our biases. So, that’s the distinction.

John Ray: [00:07:12] So, let’s talk about what is happening right now and I guess a couple things. One is I think there are a lot of white folks that are caught by surprise, and they don’t understand the depth of what’s happening. And maybe some of them discount it because they think all this is just going to blow over. But what has happened over the last few weeks, I think for those that are maybe a little more aware, feels a lot different.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:07:50] Absolutely. And I’ve been saying just in conversations with the staff where I am, and I put out a statement myself, this feels different and it is different. And I’ll tell you why. Many people have been killed in the past, many unarmed black men have been killed in the past, but I think the difference here is we almost watch it in real time. There was a video rolling of a police officer with his knee on George Floyd’s neck. And I spoke to a friend of mine who was a former police chief, and he kind of described it as it being in slow motion, and that’s the way it felt. And so, for that officer to casually and callously have his knee on George Floyd’s neck with his hands in his pocket, almost like he was posing for the camera, it was shocking, utter disbelief.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:08:51] And I’ll tell you, John, I have never witnessed a murder in my life, and using that word is difficult, but the officer was charged with murder. So, essentially, we all individually and collectively witnessed a murder. And it’s riveting. And there’s no speculation as to what happened, did he do something wrong. It’s all there on tape for eight minutes and 46 seconds. This morning, I’ll share, at one of the hospitals where I work at Women Infants Hospital New in Rhode Island, the residents, the physicians said, “We want to do something.” So, they organized a silent protest. We had the media there. It was streamed live on Facebook. And we said our words at the beginning,  myself and and the CEO. And then we had to kneel for eight minutes and 46 seconds. And I have to tell you, it took everything in me not to cry. Eight minutes and 46 seconds feels like an eternity.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:10:06] And the difference is with what happened today – and I cannot imagine how George Floyd felt – was that I knew at the 46 second of the eight minutes that I was going to be able to stand up and walk off and be fine. But he didn’t have that opportunity. He suffered a slow death and he suffered. He called for his mother. So, to go back to your question, I don’t know who can look at that and not be changed. I don’t know who can look at that and trivialize it and not say, “You know what? Something needs to be done.”

John Ray: [00:10:51] So, if I can, I mean, how are you doing in all this? I mean, because you’ve got a professional stake in all this, a professional obligation. You’re shepherding an organization of 8000 employees through this time. But how are you doing in all this?

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:11:16] Thank you for asking. It’s interesting because after I released a statement, myself and the CEO, we decided to host a town hall, basically, for all of the employees. And I shared a story. I’ll share with you, it’s relevant to Georgia. When I was driving to University of Georgia doing my doctorate, I was in the car, and I saw a police officer that was on … I can’t remember what the name of the highway is now. And I passed the officer, and I knew I’d be pulled over. And it was a two-lane highway. It was me and another truck, and I was keeping my distance. The police officer pulled pulled me over, and he walked up to the car, and I’ve been taught to kind of just be friendly and speak first. So, the officer came and I said, “Hi, officer. How are you doing?” He goes, “Oh, you changed too close to that truck.” I’m thinking, “Sure, I did.” And he goes, “Can I have your license?” I said, “Sure.” I gave him my license, he checked me out, he came back, and he goes, “Okay, you’re good to go.” No ticket, no warning, no nothing.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:12:32] Then, I had to continue on to school. I had to sit in my class at UGA like that didn’t happen, like I was terrified, and I, then, had to focus on my schoolwork. And I share this story as I did with the employees because  to use a social work term, people of color and black people in this situation are forced to separate and function. We have to separate all of the junk that we go through in order to function and still be expected to function normally. So, to go back to your question, it has been very difficult. And I think it is important for people to ask each other, “How are you doing?” and not just how are you doing and keep walking. It’s, “How are you doing?” And wait for the answer. Actually ask, and wait for the answer, and be ready for the answer.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:13:25] And so, I appreciate you. You’re the second person to ask me this question, like, really without being prompted. So, thank you, John. And I’m doing okay. I have a great support system. I make sure that I laugh every day, even if it means putting on a comedy to laugh, I do that. I like to still work out. I listen to music. I just try to make sure that I spend time for myself. And my kids bring me joy as well. So, that’s how I survived this. But in addition to that,  you know when you know you’ve been born to do something, this is in me. This is what I do, and it’s what I love, and what I believe I’m good at. So, it doesn’t feel like it’s a job. This feels like it’s an extension of why God put me on this earth.

John Ray: [00:14:16] There’s nobody that’s white that understands the concept of racial trauma. I mean, let’s just say that, right? So, talk about racial trauma. Talk about what incidents like this do to black employees in the workplace and why it’s a tough time for them right now, very tough time for them right now to function normally at work. Put it in that context because we’re a business show and we got business owners listening to this show and company executives listening to the show. So, maybe we can put it in that context.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:15:04] Sure. And I’ll put it in the context of just the work that I’ve done. So, I knew it was important. When we recognized what was happening, I knew it was important to put out a statement. I knew it was important for the employees to have an outlet with which to speak and to be heard. And I knew it was important to meet with the employees. And I’ve been doing a lot of just individual sessions with different departments. I can’t even tell you how many hundreds of employees I’ve trained the last couple of weeks.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:15:40] And in the context of a workplace, I will say to anyone listening who’s the head of a company or a business, if you have not addressed this yet, you have failed your employees because, again, it’s the separate in function. If your employees, and I know with respect to COVID, we’re now at home and working remotely, but we’re still being affected by that. And so, the racial trauma that you just shared, it’s extremely difficult to to separate. So, for example, everyone saw George Floyd on the ground, basically. And as a black person, I could not help but substitute and say, “That could have been me. That could be my husband. That could’ve been my brother. It could have been my cousin, my uncle, my nephews.” And so, it’s hard to separate. And because it was so random and because he did nothing, except perhaps maybe they think, allegedly, he passed a dummy $20 bill, does that warrant him losing his life? And we also know, we look at look at Ahmaud. What’s his last name? Sorry. Ahmaud.

John Ray: [00:16:59] Arbery.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:16:59] Arbery, sorry. The gentleman who was jogging in South Georgia.

John Ray: [00:17:04] Right, here in Georgia.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:17:07] In Georgia, he was jogging. How many times have I gone out jogging? So, the trauma here is that the system of racism exists, that we’re always functioning under anyways. And so, with that, I’ll say that in this system of racism, it assumes a pervasive white cultural norm. And that means that everything, the way the system is designed is for white people. And I know it’s hard to digest and it’s hard to hear but, essentially, when we think about it, the lighter you are, the greater the opportunities you have. The lighter you are, even the pretty you are. The pretty you are. It’s the lighter you are, the more benefit of the doubt that you get. If you’re darker skinned, you’re more likely to be considered a criminal.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:18:04] And I’m not going to give an example. I can put on the most beautiful dress or suit, and I can go into any store and still be followed because people don’t know my education, they don’t know anything about me but, unfortunately, we have been taught what skin color is, and what it means, and it’s unfortunate. And you did reference white people, but I got to tell you, I’ve had black people do the same thing to me. I’ve had Indian people do the same thing to me and Asian people. So, it’s not just white/black. And I’m saying we have been inundated with messaging from the media in different places about who is more valuable than others.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:18:48] If we think about the word Native American, you do line up 10 people, I’m sure at least eight of them will have something negative to say about them because that’s the way we’ve been taught about who people are and whose lives are worth more. And so, that’s why in my teachings, in my approach to this work, it’s telling people to be cognizant all the time of what you believe. Why do you believe what you believe? Why did you learn what you believe? And how can you unlearn some of the junk that we all have in our minds that we don’t even know that’s operating in our minds and that’s playing out in the workplace and playing out in the things that we’re doing with other people.

John Ray: [00:19:26] You mentioned something really important there. Folks, we talk with Dr. Dionne Poulton, who is the Chief Diversity Officer at Care New England and the host of Dr. Dionne Show. You mentioned something very important there, and that is the things that we have learned that are under the surface that we don’t even know we’ve learned. I mean, that’s another way of saying unconscious bias.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:19:58] Exactly, yes. And we all have it. We all have them. And I sit here as the so-called expert, but I had them as well. We all have them. But the goal is, how do you mitigate those unconscious biases? What do you do to make sure that when you’re in the moment that you’re not necessarily caught? So, one thing I did learn through my research is the more that you are cognitively tired or preoccupied, the more likely your biases will come out.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:20:31] So, let me give an example. So, most recent one, I would say, is when Kobe Bryant passed away, there was a reporter who was talking about the LA Lakers, and she inadvertently said the LA … I think she said the N-word. And we can Google it and look it up.

John Ray: [00:20:55] Oh my.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:20:55] Oh, yeah. And so, she said that and it kind of rolled off her tongue because she was cognitively preoccupied. And so, the lesson there is if we don’t do the work and we don’t make sure that we are really, really trying to  be better in terms of what we think, it comes out and it comes out when we’re tired. So, that’s an example of how things can just kind of roll off the tongue and people don’t even realize it.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:21:26] Another example is I think last year, there was a meteorologist who was talking about … he’s representing the park in Martin Luther King Day. And he was on air, and was looking at the video, and he said, “Oh, yes.” And he said – I’m paraphrasing – “Oh, look at the picture on Martin Luther Coon Day.” That’s what he said. And he was immediately fired. And he swore up and down, “No, I would never say that on air,” but again, when you are preoccupied, what you really think and what you said a thousand times will come out.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:22:04] And so, back to your question, back to what you’re saying, that’s why I always advocate don’t just order from a beautiful Chinese food restaurant, go to Chinatown. When you go on vacation, of course, there’s some safety issues in some places but don’t just stay on the resort. How about go into the local areas, mingle with the people, get some immersive options or opportunities to really, really, really get to meet other people? Go visit a black church, go to a mosque, go different places because that’s the way that you reduce prejudices. And that’s by having meaningful episodes of contact with people. That’s the only way. I’m not saying that I got a black neighbor, I’ve got a white neighbor. It’s having meaningful connections with people, and that’s the way you really, really learn how to break down biases.

John Ray: [00:22:52] And that’s more than just having your black friend you’ve always had. I mean, right?

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:22:59] Exactly.

John Ray: [00:22:59] I mean, it’s going not just one step beyond several; steps beyond that. I mean, it’s about seeking out, sometimes, uncomfortable situations that may end up uncomfortable because you’re in a place where your bearings are off.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:23:21] That’s right. And sometimes, we do have to actually intentionally try to cultivate those kind of relationships. So, you and I,  I’ve known you now for years and we’ve we’ve established a friendship. You’re a white man and I’m a black woman. And I met your daughter, I’ve talked to your daughter, I know about your family, and you know about my family. And people will think, “Oh, that’s unusual.” It’s not unusual because you and I were both open, and we met each other beyond business, and I’m going to say it right here, you have always been in my corner. And I appreciate you. I mean, to no end, you’ve always been backing me.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:23:59] And so, it’s important to try and seek out those kind of friendships. You have no idea what you’re missing if you don’t try and just go outside your own comfort zones. And so, I ask the question, including my book, who’s your dentist? Who is your doctor? Where do you live? Who do you invite over for dinner to your house? Whose house do you go to for dinner? Who do you invite to conversations? Who do you go to lunch with at work?  And if all those people are largely monolithic, then you have intentionally created a life of lookalikes. And so, you want to look into yourself and say, “Okay, so why have I created that kind of atmosphere to live in?” It’s 2020, and we’re in a diverse community. So, why have I intentionally created an environment that is monolithic to live in? And it’s important to ask that question.

John Ray: [00:24:52] Let’s talk a little bit about another incident, if you don’t mind.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:25:01] Sure.

John Ray: [00:25:01] So, it’s one thing to talk about what happened to George Floyd, which is it is murder. I mean, let’s just say that because that’s what it was. I was struck by the incident that occurred in Central Park. And I’m struck by it because that’s the one … and I know it doesn’t involve murder but that’s the one nobody’s talking about or seemingly less so. And that’s the one that involves a situation where a white woman calls in, really, weaponizes this man’s race against him, black man’s race against him. Someone who happens to be in charge of the Audubon Society. He’s there watching birds, for crying out loud. And she doesn’t have her dog on the leash, like she’s supposed to in that part of the park apparently. I don’t know what part of park that is, but apparently that’s the rule. And he’s trying to make that right and get her in compliance with what’s supposed to be going on there. And she calls the police and makes up a story. Now, it’s one thing to talk about police misconduct and we can all march about that, but that’s a little closer to home, right? I mean, that’s something that gets into weaponizing race that any of us can be guilty of.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:26:48] Absolutely. And so, you started off by saying that it was different than the George Floyd murder and that it did not end up in murder. But you know what, John? It could have.

John Ray: [00:27:00] It could have. Yeah, for sure.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:27:01] If the wrong officers showed up, it could have. And I’ll tell you why. So, that woman in Central Park knew her privilege. She knew as a white woman that if she called the police that the police will show up and they will believe her over the black man. And that goes back to what I said that some people are stigmatized. Some people are assumed criminals before we even know. We know his credentials, you just shared them, but not everyone sees that. They see the skin color and they decide, “Okay. Oh, white woman, black man.” There’s also a gender dynamic there as well. But if not for that video, it probably would have been very different. It probably would have been a different outcome.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:27:51] And what she did there was extremely scary. And we know historically, I’m just doing real talk here, historically, a lot of people, black men, lost their lives because when white women said that black men did whatever to them. And still came to mind that was circling a lot on Twitter, and it has happened historically. So, that incident also kind of ties to … I actually wrote an article in Forbes talking about the Starbucks issue, the same situation. So, we had black men sitting in Starbucks just minding their own business, and the white barista called the police assuming that they were criminals. And there’s a parallel there.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:28:46] And I mentioned that article because I said in that article that that was not unconscious bias. That’s another thing that people kind of just get mixed up. That was conscious bias. She consciously saw those two black men in Starbucks, went to the phone, and called the police. She did not do that unconsciously, much like the woman in Central Park. She actually said, she articulated, “I’m going to call the police and tell them an African-American man is threatening me,” on camera. So, you can’t be more conscious. You can’t be more aware of what you’re doing.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:27:51] And then, I’ll just tie that back to the system and with racism, and that’s the structure of racism that allows that to continue to happen because, again, as I said, we live in a culture that assumes a white cultural norm. And it also assumes that white people are right. So, when an officer shows up, the white person always gets the benefit of the doubt. And it’s hard to say it, but that’s the case. And it’s up to us as people of color to prove, “No, no, no, no, no. You’ve got it wrong. No, no, no. We didn’t do anything wrong.”

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:29:57] So, it’s a very complex thing, and that goes back to the trauma that you asked about. It’s when you live under that consistent and persistent state of, “What’s gonna happen now? If something happened to me, if someone did cross the street because they see me, I’ve been followed in a store, if someone is going to lock the doors, I’m questioned first.” I mean, it’s daunting. It really can get exhausting. And now that I’m actually in health care, we talk about health disparities a lot. And so, it’s not a surprise that people of color have high blood pressure or black people have high blood pressure because when you are living under a constant state of stress, that hormone or the cortisone levels, I mean, of course, it’s going to affect you over time. So, things need to change.

John Ray: [00:30:55] We’re speaking with Dr. Dionne Poulton. And she is the Chief Diversity Officer at Care New England. Dionne, I’m interested in, I guess, it would seem to me that companies are figuring out that their diversity program is not quite adequate. Is that a fair statement? I mean, because that word has been … the edges of that word that ought to stay there have been rounded off a little bit maybe. Maybe that’s the way to say it over the years.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:31:41] Yeah, I think this situation with the George Floyd, I think it’s opened up many things, including also a glimpse into how organizations are run. And it’s 2020 and organizations, I know many of them have been kind of caught off guard because they never believed that diversity was really important. But we do know that research shows that the more diverse a team is, the more productive they are, the more innovative they are, and they also make more money. So, from the business sense, for a company not to have diversity, you’re actually missing the mark, and you’re missing out on … first of all, it’s the right thing to do to be inclusive, but you’re also missing out on potential profits.

John Ray: [00:32:32] Absolutely. Oh, and by the way, their stock outperforms. Let’s throw it in there too, by the way.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:32:37] Bingo!

John Ray: [00:32:37] That’s been documented too. So, this is documented research we’re talking about here, so.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:32:44] Exactly, exactly, exactly. And then, in terms of these situations, we no longer have this public/private domain anymore. Social media has really blurred those lines. And so, when something happens in society, we don’t just leave, and then come back into our businesses or into our homes and, “Oh, it’s all over.” No, we are inundated with messaging all the time. We don’t think things will get turned off. And so, it is actually not fair for employees to go into the workplace and expect things not to be addressed. They can’t just turn things off. They have to be able to go into the workplace and say, “You know what? This is what happened that’s happening in society. And this is how it’s affecting me,” because it affects your work. It affects how people do the job.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:33:36] And so, that’s why it’s extremely important to make sure you not just have a diversity person in place but somebody who knows what they’re doing because I’ve also seen situations where people just, “Oh, yeah, I’m going to create a position and just throw somebody in there.” No. I make the analogy, John. I say, “I pay the finances in my home. I have all the bills. That doesn’t mean that I’m qualified to be a chief financial officer,” right?

John Ray: [00:34:02] Yeah, sure.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:34:03] But many people assume, oh, because I’m a person of color, or because I read this course, or because I read this book, that somehow I’m an expert. No, this is an actual position, and it takes years of experience to do this right and to respond right. And in the context of responses, if things are not handled properly, a person can actually do extra damage or more damage to employees than the initial thing because it wasn’t handled properly, and they can kind of re-traumatize people and say, “You know what, this person doesn’t get it.” And then, it evokes anger. So, when we have these discussions, it has to be done properly.

John Ray: [00:34:45] And how do I know if I’m a company legitimately trying to get it right? And that’s what my motivation is. I mean, how do I know that I’m on the right track with my diversity program?

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:35:03] I think it’s important to survey your employees all the time. So, a big part of … we discuss in my business, a big part of my business when I was consulting and still a little bit now, but when I consult is doing surveys that can be presented to the employees. And so, you ask them outright, “How are we doing? What’s your experience been like? How are your managers responding to you? Are your managers equipped to handle diverse issues?” There’s a whole range of issues that can be asked or questions that could be asked. And you look at the results, you have to look at the data and say, “Okay, what does that data mean?” You have to analyze it and say, “What does this data mean?” And what are the implications for this data in terms of your procedures, your policies, your education, your training? And you can really get a picture of what’s happening. And those results will also tell you the efficacy of the diversity person you have in place.

John Ray: [00:36:12] You mentioned social media. So, let’s talk a little bit about words versus deeds. So, it’s real easy. I mean, there’s a whole lot of folks that are out there posting about Black Lives Matter, companies that you never thought would post something like that posting. But it seems like those are words for some that may be popular in the moment or maybe they feel like they need to check that box. And so, what about those companies that are seeking really to truly make a difference, what do you suggest for the beyond just the social media and in posting the right message?

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:37:15] Well, again, it’s checking in with your employees and asking them, as you did, “How are you doing?” and really be willing to hear what they have to say to you. And there’s nothing better than getting the experiential knowledge of people who are living with what’s been happening in society. So, listening is huge. Listening and acting is huge. And just understanding that it’s a marathon, you’re not going to make these grand changes in one day, and then all of a sudden, you arrived and everything’s fine. It’s ongoing, and things change over time, and you have to pivot, and be willing to be flexible.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:37:15] And a huge part, and I would say why it’s important too about the leader who leads this, they have to be really, really comfortable in their skin and really, really comfortable with being uncomfortable and being able to address conflict. Because if not, people sweep things under the rug all the time. And then, next thing you know, you’re faced with some kind of lawsuit because you have now created or sustained a hostile working environment for people of color. And not just people of color but LGBTQ community. You have to address these issues head on.

John Ray: [00:38:42] This goes beyond just companies. Also, I think, about small business owners and how they relate to each other. I’ve had conversations with black small business owners that say to me, “Has it ever occurred to you why I don’t have my picture on my business card?”

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:38:42] Yeah.

John Ray: [00:39:11] Yeah, “Because I’m concerned about that I might not get that call for my services or for my product.” And those are eye-opening conversations. And so, part of it, even if you’re a small business owner, there is a place for those conversations. I mean, you’re not off the hook just because you don’t have a lot of employees and a diverse group of employees.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:39:47] Yeah, that’s really tough, and I identify with that. So, when I was starting off with my business, it was difficult. And  I did, actually, go back and forth, but I said, “You know what?” I’m speaking for myself. I said, “You know what? I’m going to just put my picture there. I’m going to just say this is who I am. I’m not going to deny who I am.” And quite frankly, if someone doesn’t want to do business with me because of how I looked, then I don’t even want your money.” Like, not all money is good in my opinion.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:40:14] And so, I’m thinking back as a so-called hungry entrepreneur and just starting out. I can see that retrospectively. But ultimately, I think people have to do things within their own comfort zone and whatever makes them feel okay. I remember attending a conference, and there was a black woman who owned a business, and she was married to a white man. I remember her saying that she would send her white husband to get the contracts initially. And then, they would recognize over time that she was behind the scenes or that she was actually the owner. And I get it. And it makes sense because, unfortunately, again, people have the assumption, “Oh, it’s black-owned. Oh, it cannot be run well. Oh, they’re not above board.” I mean, there’s all these stereotypes that play into it. So, I totally get it. But over time, for me, it got exhausting. I said, “You know what, I’m putting it out there.” And I ended up meeting people like you, and I had a very thriving and successful consulting business.

John Ray: [00:41:27] Well, I guess, the … and I’m coming at it from the point of view of a white man. I mean, I’m challenging folks that are white that are small business owners to go have those conversations with their black small business … fellow small business owners and to understand some of the things that they deal with that are exhausting that you, as a white business owner, do not have to deal with. As tough as what you think you’ve got, there are some things you don’t have to deal with.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:42:05] And that’s true. And I think we’ve had these conversations. We had a similar conversation. And I know you’re the expert in terms of upsetting your pay, right?

John Ray: [00:42:15] Pricing.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:42:15] Your rate.

John Ray: [00:42:16] Right.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:42:16] And we’ve had discussions because another extension of this conversation is because you’re a black-owned business that people want to lowball you. And that happened over and over again. And then, eventually said, “You know what, I know my worth. I know what I have to offer. And so, if you’re not going to pay me my rates, then we can’t do business.” And I had to turn down a lot of things because people expect you to either lower your rate and/or volunteer your time. And it’s, “Oh, what do you think? What do you think? What do you think? What do you think?” It’s like, I understand there’s a conversation and maybe there’s some kind of reciprocity, but if it just continue on, then maybe say, “You know what, I should actually compensate you for all the time that you’re spending.” Talking to all your people and giving advice because you wouldn’t do that with a lawyer, right?

John Ray: [00:43:17] Right.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:43:18] It’s something with the profession. So, to your point, my advice for a lot of these business owners is to be cognizant of that and ask people, “What can I do to support you?” And I would even go a step further. I saw a couple of days ago Sephora, the makeup place, they decided to allocate 15% of their shelf space to minority-owned businesses. And so, that’s been a movement that a lot of these corporations are doing now. They’re now starting to expand and, now, inviting businesses of color to be sold through their businesses. So, the same can be done in this context because there are a lot of really incredible people doing great work, running great businesses, and they just happen to be of color.

John Ray: [00:44:12] For certain.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:44:12] And it should not be a disqualifier.

John Ray: [00:44:16] Absolutely. Well, this is true for all young people. Let’s just say that because there’s some unconscious bias that goes on from folks that are my vintage. I’m not going to say what that is because it’s too old. It’s too old, Dionne. But that-

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:44:37] No, you’re not.

John Ray: [00:44:37] I think all those millennials, right? But there’s a special burden that a young black man that’s in business carries or a young black woman because you’re mixing in the youth and their blackness.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:45:04] Yeah, I would say that … well, I could talk about my oldest daughter. She’s 16, and she’s not a millenial. I think she’s a Gen-Z but she gets it. She’s quite the activist actually and all about social justice. And it’s just remarkable to hear her and see her speak. And so, the way that I’ve raised her is to understand who she is, embrace herself as a black woman but, also, to be open to other cultures as I am. And so, speaking to her, she has, I mean, every type of person you can think of as friends, including also people from the LGBTQ community. She’s an open heart and flexible by girls. And I love that.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:45:54] And it’s interesting she shared this with me a couple days ago. Her name is Ella. So, Ella said to me, she goes, “Mommy,” she goes, “I’m not understanding.” She goes, “Even the white people who actually get it are trying hard to not appear racist because of what happened with George Floyd.” And that was so profound, so profound and deep. And so, what she was saying is she has friendships, she’s got people that are in her life that she doesn’t think are thinking of her as being less than. But because of what happened, people are now kind of working overtime, and they’re trying not to appear a certain way when they’re already not that way, if that makes if that makes sense.

John Ray: [00:46:42] Sure.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:46:42] And I share that too because I think that the millennials, even though they may be part of different demographics, and you mentioned the black men, the black women, and I’m not saying that they don’t experience racism and they probably do, but I think the younger people are so refreshingly open and not as hung up with race the way our generations are. And that’s encouraging and that is exciting. And then, we can see that’s indicative of how people are marching. You can see just how diverse people are marching in the streets. The protests, we have all different types of people that are marching and kneeling, and even police officers in conversations. And it’s not even along racial lines.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:47:39] And I think I start off by saying, “What happened there? This is right or wrong?” And I said, “If you look at that, if you look at what happened, and you still don’t get it that it was wrong, then something’s up. And I think right or wrong transcends any difference that we have. What happened there was wrong and it cannot be trivialized.”

John Ray: [00:48:02] We’re speaking with Dr. Dionne Poulton. And she is the Chief Diversity Officer at Care New England and the author of a forthcoming book that she won’t like let me get into right now. See, I’ve tried to reel you in for whatever that book comes out, okay? But she’s also the author of of a book called It’s Not Always Racist … But Sometimes, It Is, and a book that I highly recommend. Dionne, this has been great. And you’re obviously extraordinarily busy right now, and I really appreciate your time being here. I guess, why don’t you sum up kind of what your thoughts are on where we are and what do you recommend? I mean, we talked about listening to people. We talked about stepping out. We talked about listening with a nonjudgmental presence maybe. But what else do you recommend folks do that feel like, “Hey, I’m I’m behind and I need to understand”?

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:49:24] Well, I think educating ourselves is is a good thing. Continue reading and just seeking out opportunities to talk to people, different people because I do think that you can learn a lot more from the personal anecdotes of people than just going to a book and just reading it. So, engaging conversations, and coming to these conversations curious, and saying, “You know what? I don’t have all the answers. Can I talk to you? I’m curious to know.” I think it’s just having authentic conversations will definitely help.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:50:02] And I’ll just also echo what I said earlier is I think we’re now in a moment where we need to start recognizing who’s on the margins, who doesn’t have the opportunities. So, my kids always joke with me – actually, my family does – even before this, every time I go into a restaurant, if I ever have a a black male waiter, in particular, I always tip him and tip them extremely well. And why? Because, John, I know what it’s like, the difficulty that black men, in particular, go through in society. And so, for him to be there working, and fighting against the stereotype, and just doing the right thing, I like the support. So, in that regard, you can support people. And so, the businesses, seek out different types of people to support your work and your endeavors. Get a diverse client to come in and do a consulting gig for you. There are many things that you can do.

John Ray: [00:51:03] Well, this has been great. And if someone wants to reach out to you, are you open to that? And how can they do that?

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:51:15] Sure. So, I still have my my my business email. So, it’s dionne@poultonconsultinggroup.com. And I’m on LinkedIn at Dr. Dionne Poulton, and also on Twitter. And you can Google and you can certainly find a way to reach me. And also through you.

John Ray: [00:51:15] Yeah, that’s true. Well, this is awesome. Care New England, do they know how lucky they are to have you?

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:51:51] Oh, that’s a sweet question. You have to ask them.

John Ray: [00:51:53] Okay. I bet they already do.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:51:56] But I think so. It’s a great environment. It’s really great people trying to do the right thing. There are four hospitals and three medical centers across Rhode Island. So, it’s a big job, and we’re doing a lot of great work, and they’re committed to fighting health disparities  and making sure that everybody has an equal shot at health care. So, it’s a great place to be.

John Ray: [00:52:19] That’s awesome. Well, I’m grateful for you, grateful for your work. Dr. Dionne Poulton, thanks so much for being with us.

Dr. Dionne Poulton: [00:52:27] Thanks so much for having me. Good to see you again, John.

John Ray: [00:52:29] Great to see you too. Folks, just a reminder, you can find this show on any of the major podcast platforms. That would include Apple, Stitcher, Google, Spotify, iHeart Radio. Do I have to go on? I mean, we’re on all of those platforms. And you can find us at North Fulton by searching North Fulton Business Radio. That’s how you can find us on any of those platforms. We’d love it if you could give us a nice review because it helps folks find the show and promote the great work of folks like Dr. Dionne Poulton and the other business leaders that we’ve had over the last four years. You can also go to NorthFultonBusinessRadio.com and find our show archive there as well. On LinkedIn, Twitter and Facebook, we’re @northfultonbrx on all those platforms. So, for my guest, Dr Dionne Poulton, I’m John Ray. Join us next time here on North Fulton Business Radio.